FORGIVENESS

Rickie The Grey wrote: I have a hard time with this. A hurt from the past is still a hurt. The pain will lesson over time but it doesn't go away until you forget. I can't say that's OK when it not. I can let it go, dissassociate and let them go their own path. They are what ther are and I can't change that but is that forgivness. Can you forgive and still live with the hurt? It takes time to heal.

So how do you forgive a wrong?

If the person or person ask, tell them honestly how you feel if that's what they want. Don't expand upon the situation nor dwell on it.

As for forgiveness for me, I try and forgive as I'm not one that can sit and hold a grudge, it's just not in my make up. If it's a small thing I tend to forgive and forget, just might not be in that order. :whistle:

For MAJOR issues, I'll forgive but I won't forget. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." It will be filed under lessons learned.

If you are one to easily forgive, then you'll forgive easily.

If you are one to not easily forgive, then you'll forgive later when you are ready.

If you refuse to forgive for the rest of your life, then you nor the other should expect forgiveness.

Whether or not you forgive is your choice. The only things I see matter with any or all of the above, is 1. how you accept your own willingness to forgive or not, and 2. whether or not you are prepared for any consequences born from your choice.

Forgiveness comes when your heart truly means it. Forgiveness is the breath of release when you are finally able to let go. And most importantly, forgiveness is humility. Be humble, for when someone does something that needs true forgiveness....often times, you are simply the cause of so much affection that they lash out and hurt you in a way they know they can, when they hurt.