Has Texting KIlled Romance

Careful will phrases like"true meaning".

I see where the issue is…

I never once said anything about “traditional Marriages.” I was talking about wedding ceremonies and the fact that they have always existed in one form or another.

It is probably not seen as being as important in today’s society as much as it once was. I also feel that the magnitude of such devotion is lost on so many. We live in a world where if you don’t like something you get rid of it or get something different. And the thought of committing oneself to another is probably too much for most to accept.

Words like duty, devotion, commitment and honor are lost for so many today. Sure they know the word exists and have some idea of what they mean; but the moral conviction which spurred their use is very distant for many.

As it was stated in your article, marriage use to be seen as too important to be left up to love. Which I’m sure in whatever part of the world one wants to compare it to that is true.

And I said earlier….

And way back, marriage had some differences but that really depends on the society you are comparing to the present.

And, in the IP we learn how the institutions of romantic love lead to how we view love today. And this started with the Troubadours in the early 14th century I think. I’d have to look it up to be 100% accurate.

I am not trying to be mean or say that people can't commit or any of that. I am just saying that we live in different times and things of that nature have begun to go away.

I didn't say they started out that way either. There was a time when things were viewed differently then they are today.

I've been married for nearly 15 years with no actual marriage. We are still on our first date. If we had kids we would have gotten married. For me I think the only purpose of 'marriage' is to create a contemporary family unit for raising young children. Historically I think it was the vehicle to have possession of the women by man for exclusive breeding and childcare.... as unromantic as that sounds.

For all who wanted to read my essay it is up. Not a great piece of writing since putting my thoughts into an essay has never been my strong suit If you have any questiions or responses please feel free to ask me. IF i need to explain myself better i will and probably can.

I met my wife through IRC and we were pen-pals online for 5 years before we met. I still send her little texts for romantic reasons but most of the romance is done in the real world. Things like cutting her a bouquet of roses off our bushes, throwing together a salad from the garden, making her a flower garden and running drip lines, etc.