Has Texting KIlled Romance

So in my English class for college the first thing we were required to do is read an article called "Has Texting Killed Romance" by Ashton Kutcher and i was wondering what everyone believes. i For one from a past relationship believes that it doesn't kill the relationship but rather take away a lot of the anticipation what usually would occur. Below is the link of the article.





http://www.harpersbazaar.com/magazine/feature-articles/ashton-kutcher-relationships-interview-0111

once i Fully finish my essay in the next day or so i will post it in my personal forum for all to read.

I don't think texting alone is killing romance, I think the internet has already done that, and texting is just a tangent of the internet (even though it's done with phones instead of computers). The mentality has changed along with the technology. I personally can't blame any one thing that is destroying what society once was (be it romance, communication, entertainment, etc.). I don't necessarily consider any of it "bad", it's just change.

If anything, I think texting and the internet have changed romance, but I'm not sure if they've done away with it. Romance is certainly less dramatic than it once was, but does that mean it's dead? Couldn't we argue that life itself is much less dramatic than the olden days when "approaching" someone the "wrong way" could lead to an honor duel to the death, or even in more recent history when integration between the races caused daily drama? Nowadays, for the most part, our lives seem generally more stable than the lives of people of the past.

Is changed & milder romance = killed romance?
:huh:

Texting doesn't ruin romance in the same way that a gun doesn't kill people.

It is merely a tool to show the true nature of the person who uses it. Often people text things that they wouldn't normally say, and that is where the problem comes in. When you are desensitized to the situation due to the lack of nonverbal communications (body language, etc.) it can cause a problem. As with any tool it simply needs to be used the right way. Instead of replacing parts of the relationship with texting, you can merely add to the already existing relationship through texting. Imortant conversations should be had in person still and you should never refuse a phone call because you could text instead.

Whenever a new technology comes into being there will be those who find a way to misuse it. When a relationship really matters to you, texting won't ruin your romance, it will simply offer more frequent communication.

May the Force be with you,
Rai

The only thing that can kill romance is the individuals in the relationship. I wouldnt even say texting has made it more mild.

If the fire, the passion is dwindling, or gone, than it is the responsibility of those in the relationship to find out why. IF that is what they want at all.

However I fail to see how texting can be blamed for a lack of romance in a relationship. Thats like blaming video games for murder.

All ways for people to pass the buck of responsibility for where they are at in there lives and there sphere of influence onto something else, rather than face the fact that they themselves are to blame.

Denial comes in many forms.

I would blame feminism far more than I would blame technology.

Maybe romance as we know it.

What's romance?

It's been my experience that most women claim to want romance yet seek the unromantic..they claim to want chivalry, yet seek the non chivalrous...if romance and chivalry are dead then it is because of a lack of communication, or skill in communication(too many people have trouble saying exactly what they mean and meaning exactly what they say...a lack of clarity if you will) of course communication is not the only murderer of romance, a lack of understanding is just as guilty, if both parties don't/ no longer understand each others needs and wants then how can they experience love/romance together?

If romance is dead then blame the person, not the tool....a hammer is just a hammer until someone wields it, then it becomes something to create or destroy...

Khaos wrote: The only thing that can kill romance is the individuals in the relationship. I wouldnt even say texting has made it more mild.

If the fire, the passion is dwindling, or gone, than it is the responsibility of those in the relationship to find out why. IF that is what they want at all.

However I fail to see how texting can be blamed for a lack of romance in a relationship. Thats like blaming video games for murder.

This I agree with.
I think if you lack romance, that's down to you, not someone or something else.

Romance can be simple, and thoughtful, it doesn't have to be overblown, it just needs to be sincere.