Profiles - Gender

i look at the name and the gender suggested buy the avatar

if your name or the picture i see below it indicates a gender, then you are that gender as far as i am concerned

MartaLina wrote: how many of you actually LOOK at someone elses profile , i did and guess what i found , the person i wanted to look at has...restricted acces , the irony loll

Never once. If I want to address someone in such a way (Which is rare) I ask them, or I observe the conversation and watch how others address them or how they address themselves through conversation and interaction. *shrugs*

MartaLina wrote: And now for the piece de resistance for arguments sake , how many of you actually LOOK at someone elses profile , i did and guess what i found , the person i wanted to look at has...restricted acces , the irony loll

I do, whenever anyone pops into chat that I don't recognize, I check their profile for date joined and gender so I know if I how I can greet them and what pronoun to use.

MartaLina wrote: And may i also point out that the use of the word gender is an inaccurate presentation of what you really want to achieve namely , acknowledgement to be called whatever the heck you want to be called , so how do you want to be adressed ? Lets for instance say that you are a Drama Queen? That is fine is that Drama Queen a He or a She ? People keep thinking that a dropdown menu for the word Gender will cover it all , but it will not , an open space will where we can tell stuff about ourselfes , ow wait , dont we have an about ME section .. Hi i am Marta Lina , one day i am a Drama Queen , tomorrow i am Butch Sunday ...

And now for the piece de resistance for arguments sake , how many of you actually LOOK at someone elses profile , i did and guess what i found , the person i wanted to look at has...restricted acces , the irony loll

To be fair, sociologically speaking gender very typically dictates the way we address people. Because gender is a fluid concept and being recognized more and more as non-binary by academics, those pronouns are expanding and becoming far more numerous than any single drop down box should even try to handle. LMAO That said, I recognize that this is also going to vary a bit from culture to culture. Within my own family culture, I have individuals who are very pro binary gender definitions and feel any deviation from said binary status is a mental illness at best, and Satan's scheming at worst. I can only speak to what I know of sociology, anthropology, and psychology. It'd be nice if we had evolved as a society to the point where having a visual display of this sort of thing wasn't necessary; unfortunately we haven't because we're still actively fighting for non-binary gender rights and the terminology that comes with it. Providing it as a fill-in option alleviates the need for an individual to come up with all non-binary terminology without risk of offending those who are cisgendered and makes it more inclusive as a whole.

As for your profile question, I actively look at profiles all the time, particularly with new members. If someone comes into chat I've never spoken with before, rather than assume gender, I usually go to their profile first to see if they've got anything there. That's my first stop. Always. I also know other individuals who actively look at profiles all the time, looking for the same information or like information. One individual looks for information through introduction posts and the profiles to come up with information on how to address the individual, how to respect them, what they like, what they dislike... Things that can prevent miscommunications, unintentional offenses, and make for more interesting conversation and less idle chatter.

Trisskar wrote:

MartaLina wrote: how many of you actually LOOK at someone elses profile , i did and guess what i found , the person i wanted to look at has...restricted acces , the irony loll

Never once. If I want to address someone in such a way (Which is rare) I ask them, or I observe the conversation and watch how others address them or how they address themselves through conversation and interaction. *shrugs*

That is the point i have been trying to make , we all can attack someone for not agreeing , but we should stop attacking people who are trying to change things or clear them up , they be attacking eachother now , so stupid ...

Kit wrote:

MartaLina wrote: And now for the piece de resistance for arguments sake , how many of you actually LOOK at someone elses profile , i did and guess what i found , the person i wanted to look at has...restricted acces , the irony loll

I do, whenever anyone pops into chat that I don't recognize, I check their profile for date joined and gender so I know if I how I can greet them and what pronoun to use.

I do too, as I said on the first page.

MartaLina wrote: but we should stop attacking people who are trying to change things or clear them up , they be attacking eachother now , so stupid ...

Word.

Gwinn wrote:

Kit wrote:

MartaLina wrote: And now for the piece de resistance for arguments sake , how many of you actually LOOK at someone elses profile , i did and guess what i found , the person i wanted to look at has...restricted acces , the irony loll

I do, whenever anyone pops into chat that I don't recognize, I check their profile for date joined and gender so I know if I how I can greet them and what pronoun to use.

I do too, as I said on the first page.

:laugh: yeah i know WE do , but a lot of people dont , and even then , whats the use if you have your profile on private ?

MartaLina wrote:

Gwinn wrote:

Kit wrote:

MartaLina wrote: And now for the piece de resistance for arguments sake , how many of you actually LOOK at someone elses profile , i did and guess what i found , the person i wanted to look at has...restricted acces , the irony loll

I do, whenever anyone pops into chat that I don't recognize, I check their profile for date joined and gender so I know if I how I can greet them and what pronoun to use.

I do too, as I said on the first page.

:laugh: yeah i know WE do , but a lot of people dont , and even then , whats the use if you have your profile on private ?

haha that's on other people I try not to offend someone the first time I meet them if info is available but that's just me Private profiles are usually done for very good and very personal reasons

Kit wrote:

MartaLina wrote:

Gwinn wrote:

Kit wrote:

MartaLina wrote: And now for the piece de resistance for arguments sake , how many of you actually LOOK at someone elses profile , i did and guess what i found , the person i wanted to look at has...restricted acces , the irony loll

I do, whenever anyone pops into chat that I don't recognize, I check their profile for date joined and gender so I know if I how I can greet them and what pronoun to use.

I do too, as I said on the first page.

:laugh: yeah i know WE do , but a lot of people dont , and even then , whats the use if you have your profile on private ?

haha that's on other people I try not to offend someone the first time I meet them if info is available but that's just me Private profiles are usually done for very good and very personal reasons

I am sure they are it was just funny that the first profile that i looked at had restricted acces loll