I am a Jedi... and a stronger person because of my experiences rather than despite of them. I learned to let go of the rage and hatred, and now I can look back on my early life as a story to teach a lesson... that no matter how bad it seems, no matter how dark it gets, there is good to be found in any situation, and in the blackest darkness can a single candle shine the brightest.
May the Force be with us all.
--- Master Kyp
=_= Malicious (+_+)
Similarly, one of the best emotional health tips I ever heard came from Tom Haverford who said people don't want you to fix all their problems, they want you to say 'that sucks.'
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TM: Carlos Martinez
ὁ δὲ ἀμυχηδόν νεξέταστος βίος γίγνομαι βιωτὸς ἀνθρώπῳ
Personally I am careful about people who are focused just one way, it evokes within me some sort of concern. And for some time will be this positivity turned into some sort of emotional explosion as the response of ignored feelings of unwanted emotions.
- Phoenix die and transform into something new -
And that grisly, messy, sloppy 'human condition' can be painful, cunning, desirous, greedy … the list is inexhaustible. We learn to consider our Ideals as Ideals – not as reliable realities we can make happen ; reality can only approach – or recede – from what the Ideal was. But then, Ideals can be flexible … One gets no where by focussing on the positive to the exclusion of the negative – they are one of a piece. Positivist psychology is even a bit dangerous because it tends to feed fantasies that engender even worse states of depression when those fantasies eventually turn out to be just that – fantasies. Every advantage has its incumbent disadvantage, every wave its crest but also its trough. To attempt to have one without the other is to not accept reality. And that non-acceptance of what feels utterly painful is the guarantee that one will never experience Joy either. So, focussing on the positive is the same as the rejection of the positive. And one can't be “bothered” - in the distorted image of the 'Master' – is the rejection of the Mastery so sought-after. Naturally, this is not an injunction to be all dismal and focus on the negative, for that would be the same thing : rejection of the negative to focus on the negative – making the negative just as silly as the Ideal that doesn't turn out.
Chaque homme a des devoirs envers l'homme en tant qu'homme.
~ Henri Bergson
There are toxic people around. I used to be one. Cultivation is a word I use here often. Any one can cultivate almost anything. At one time my faith was toxic to me. (Not Jediism)
At me time - dancing was toxic to me.
At one time - my own love was toxic and I was giving a thick toxic sludge no one would have wanted.
I remember when ONE person was toxic in my life. Oh , I knew . That was the worst for me. After a while as a human - I knew I was being toxic or who they were in my life.
Toxicity comes in any form I am sure of. It has for me.
What changed me was the ability to NOT be the “Ruiner of days” or the toxic tether that exist. To do exactly the opposite.
I like this thread because it reminds me - there always too much of something or even better - too much is too much no matter who or what side ... hu?