Being a jedi makes us weak?

1. You Tend To Complain More Than Other People

Nobody has it easy – life is like a rollercoaster and it certainly has its ups and downs for everybody, we all go through all sorts of tests and events that shape our personality and our mindset. However, we all try to overcome the negative events that take place in our lives, one way or another. While a mentally strong person would always try to look at the bright side and realizes that a misfortunate event is not the end of the world, one that is weaker tends to complain, to whine and to spread negativity all around. That negativity is very bothersome for most people, not to mention that it pushes them away in an instant – nobody wants to be around a pessimist who only sees the bad side of life.

Emotionally and mentally strong people are too busy looking for ways to solve their problems – that is why you will rarely ever hear them complain about the bad things that happen to them. They always take responsibility for their actions and they always try to make the best of what life gives them. They know that they will encounter plenty of other problems in life, but that is the beauty of it: they are willing to deal with them consciously, as opposed to whining all the time and feeling sorry for themselves.

2. Mentally Weak People Do Not Want To Step Out Of Their Comfort Zone

3. Mentally Weak People Do Not Take Other People’s Opinions Into Account

While it is true that you must live your life just the way you want to and you must never let anybody influence your choices, it is important to listen to the opinions of other people to a certain extent. It often happens that mentally and emotionally weak people also have a very high ego, and they rarely listen to anybody but themselves.

4. They Give Up Without A Fight

This is undoubtedly one of the most obvious reasons that a person is mentally weak – a person that is strong on all levels would never give up too easily. Only weak people lack perseverance, and they forget that success will never come to those who give up so easily. Regardless of how difficult it may be at times, one must always fight for his goals: if you give up and throw in the towel before you even start the battle, then the chances are that you are mentally weak, and this may take its toll on your life at a certain point.


5. You Envy Other People For Their Success

6. You Get Angry Too Quickly

Sometimes, getting angry too quickly does not have anything to do with your personality per se – there are some people who are inherently calm, and there are others who are prone to getting angry fast, by default. However, if you get angry quickly when somebody challenges you (be it professionally, intellectually or on any other level), then you may be mentally weaker than the average, and this might actually reflect the frustration you are feeling deep inside of you. As mentioned above, life certainly has its ups and downs and we are all going through them, but ultimately it is up to you to handle them properly. If you let your frustrations and negative thoughts get the best of you, then nothing good will ever come out of that.

7. You Tend To Be Overly Dramatic

Last, but not least, it often happens that weak minded people are also the ones that are the most dramatic in all aspects of life. They try to convince others that they bear the weight of the world on their shoulders and that they have the most unfortunate and difficult lives. What they do not understand is the fact that the brain is designed in such a manner that it “projects” one’s thoughts and emotions into their life. This is where the emotionally and mentally strong people stand out: they manage to somehow filter all this negativity and to avoid projecting it onto others.

The Bottom Line

To conclude, these are some of the most obvious signs that you are a mentally strong person – if you find yourself in any of them, then the good news is that you can do something about it. Everything comes down to your mindset, and it is up to you to decide whether you want to change it or not.

Indecision- When faced with the need to make a decision, utilize the "stop, think, ask" , system. This system is tried and true. The way it works is when you have to decide something, you don't. At least not for a minute or two. Don't be afraid to be slow to speak. Take the time to think. Consider your convictions, your desires, the consequences and benefits of the decision you are preparing to make. Ask God to help you make the right decision....if you listen, He will guide.
Fear- Fear is the hinderance to greatness. If you fear, you will not act. It is the great paralyzer of hope and dreams....get rid of it. Do whatever it takes to keep fear from being great in your life. If you know God, you don't have to live with fear.
Insecurity- Your opinon of yourself should outweigh the opinions that others have of you. And you opinion of you should be based in what God has said about you. If you value another persons opinion of you more greatly than you value your own opinon of yourself, you will always be weak. Learn to be strong.
Alienation- Don't push people away. If you have been hurt in the past and are suspicious of others or think that people just don't like you, than it is time to examine your own heart. You may have been desperately hurt by others, but as devastating as that may have been you have to move on. Learn to trust again. He that would have friends must show himself friendly.
Isolation- Hiding from the world will weaken you more quickly than anything else. Iron sharpeneth iron. You have to interact with others even though you may be offended once in a while. Learn from the offense. Let it toughen your skin. Endure hardness as a good soldier.
Lack of knowledge - What you don't know will hurt you. Learn, study, read, pray, ask questions. Never find yourself without curiosity. In all thy getting, get an understanding.
Lack of communication- Communicate with yourself. Tell yourself that you are strong because you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Communicate with others, connect with people who care about your. Communcate with God...He loves you most of all. Turn your can'ts into can's. I know that is a cliché but it is faithful and true.
Self-deception- Always tell the truth to yourself about yourself. If you are lazy, don't say that you are not. But more importantly, decide what you are going to do about it...how are your going to begin to change it....never give up on yourself. Set a goal one day at a time to change the negative truths about yourself into testimonies.
Pride- A multifaceted monster that is many tentacled and which must be guarded against on a regular basis. Study about pride, recognize it and get rid of it.... your help cometh from the Lord.
Worry- Can you change one color of your hair to another color without the help of peroxide? No!, so, don't worry. The company is closed over the weekend, so, why are you worrying about the bill? Get the money to them on Monday. Let go of things that you cannot change until you can change them.

1. Dwelling On The Past

Mentally strong individuals focus on the present moment and on the near future. They understand that the past is out of our control and the far future is about as predictable as the weather this winter.

2. Remaining In Their Comfort Zone

The comfort zone is a dangerous place, a dark abyss where anyone who remains there for too long loses his or herself entirely. Staying within your comfort zone is giving up on life.

3. Not Listening To The Opinions Of Others

Only the foolish believe themselves to be sufficient in all regards. When it comes to brainstorming, ideas can't so much be forced as they can be caught. A good idea is a good idea, regardless of whether or not you came up with it. Don't let your ego get the better of you; if someone has great advice to give, take it.

4. Avoiding Change

What the mentally strong understand that the mentally weak do not is that change is unavoidable. Trying to avoid the inevitable is pointless. Therefore, trying to avoid change is pointless; it’s a mere waste of time and energy.

5. Keeping A Closed Mind

You don't know everything. Even the things you believe yourself to know are likely to not be entirely true. If you keep a closed mind, you are preventing yourself from learning new material. If you stop learning, you stop living.

6. Letting Others Make Decisions For Them

Only you should be making your own decisions; you can't allow others to make them for you. All this does is shift the responsibility from you to someone else, but the only person failing in the end is you. If you don't have the courage to fail, then you don't have the courage to succeed.

7. Getting Jealous Over The Successes Of Others

When others succeed, you should be happy. If they can do it, so can you. The success of others does not, in any way, lessen the chances of you succeeding. If anything, it should motivate you to keep pushing forward.

8. Thinking About The High Possibility Of Failure

Our thoughts control our perspective; our perspective controls our results. The mentally strong understand this and use this to their advantage. There's always the chance you may fail, but as long as there is the chance you may succeed, it's worth trying.

9. Feeling Sorry For Themselves

Sh*t happens. Life can be hard. People get hurt; others die. Life isn't all roses and butterflies. You will fall off that horse again and again and again. The question is, are you strong enough to keep getting back on it?

10. Focusing On Their Weaknesses

Although working on our weaknesses does have its benefits, it's more important to focus on banking on our strengths. The most well-rounded person is not the person that gets the furthest in life. Being average in all regards makes you average. However, mastering a certain skillset or trait will allow you to beat the competition with less effort.

11. Trying To Please People

A job well done is a job well done, no matter who is judging the final product. You can't please everybody, but you can always manage to do your very best.

12. Blaming Themselves For Things Outside Their Control

The mentally strong know the things they can control, understand the things they cannot control, and avoid even thinking about that which is completely out of their hands.

13. Being Impatient

Patience isn't just a virtue; it is the virtue. Most people don't fail because they aren't good enough, or aren't capable of winning or succeeding. Most people fail because they are impatient and give up before their time has come.

14. Being Misunderstood

Communication is key in any properly functioning system. When it comes to people, things get a bit more complicated. Simply stating information is never enough; if the receiving party misunderstands you, your message is not being properly relayed. The mentally strong do their best to be understood and have the patience to clear up misunderstandings.

15. Feeling Like You're Owed

You aren't owed anything in life. You were born; the rest is up to you. Life doesn't owe you anything. Others don't owe you anything. If you want something in life, you only owe it to yourself to go out and get it. In life, there are no handouts.

16. Repeating Mistakes

Make a mistake once, okay. Make a mistake twice… not so okay. Make the same mistake a third time, you may need to consider giving up alcohol and drugs. You're either stupid or permanently high.

17. Giving Into Their Fears

The world can be a scary place. Some things frighten us with good cause, but most of our fears are illogical. If you know that you want to try something, try it. If you're scared, then understand that being scared of failing must mean that succeeding means a whole lot to you.

18. Acting Without Calculating

The mentally strong know better than to act before completely understanding the situation at hand. If you have time to ponder over something and cover all your bases, then do so. Not doing so is pure laziness.

19. Refusing Help From Others

You're not Superman; you can't do it all. Even if you can, why should you? If others are offering to help, let them help. Be social. Listen to their ideas and watch how they do things. You may learn something. If not, then you can teach them something and do what humans are meant to do: socialize.

20. Throwing In The Towel

The biggest weakness in all of humanity is giving up — calling it quits, throwing in the towel. The mentally strong go about things in such a way. Only do things if they are important to you; forget the things that aren't important to you. If they're important to you, then pursue them until you succeed. No exceptions, ever.

1. Define what mental toughness means for you.
For the West Point army cadets being mentally tough meant finishing an entire summer of Beast Barracks.

For you, it might be…

going one month without missing a workout
going one week without eating processed or packaged food
delivering your work ahead of schedule for two days in a row
meditating every morning this week
grinding out one extra rep on each set at the gym today
calling one friend to catch up every Saturday this month
spending one hour doing something creative every evening this week
Whatever it is, be clear about what you’re going after. Mental toughness is an abstract quality, but in the real world it’s tied to concrete actions. You can’t magically think your way to becoming mentally tough, you prove it to yourself by doing something in real life.

Which brings me to my second point…

2. Mental toughness is built through small physical wins.
You can’t become committed or consistent with a weak mind. How many workouts have you missed because your mind, not your body, told you you were tired? How many reps have you missed out on because your mind said, “Nine reps is enough. Don’t worry about the tenth.” Probably thousands for most people, including myself. And 99% are due to weakness of the mind, not the body.
—Drew Shamrock

So often we think that mental toughness is about how we respond to extreme situations. How did you perform in the championship game? Can you keep your life together while grieving the death of a family member? Did you bounce back after your business went bankrupt?

There’s no doubt that extreme situations test our courage, perseverance, and mental toughness … but what about everyday circumstances?

Mental toughness is like a muscle. It needs to be worked to grow and develop. If you haven’t pushed yourself in thousands of small ways, of course you’ll wilt when things get really difficult.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Choose to do the tenth rep when it would be easier to just do nine. Choose to create when it would be easier to consume. Choose to ask the extra question when it would be easier to accept. Prove to yourself — in a thousand tiny ways — that you have enough guts to get in the ring and do battle with life.

Mental toughness is built through small wins. It’s the individual choices that we make on a daily basis that build our “mental toughness muscle.” We all want mental strength, but you can’t think your way to it. It’s your physical actions that prove your mental fortitude.

3. Mental toughness is about your habits, not your motivation.
Motivation is fickle. Willpower comes and goes.

Mental toughness isn’t about getting an incredible dose of inspiration or courage. It’s about building the daily habits that allow you to stick to a schedule and overcome challenges and distractions over and over and over again.

Mentally tough people don’t have to be more courageous, more talented, or more intelligent — just more consistent. Mentally tough people develop systems that help them focus on the important stuff regardless of how many obstacles life puts in front of them. It’s their habits that form the foundation of their mental beliefs and ultimately set them apart.

I’ve written about this many times before. Here are the basic steps for building a new habit and links to further information on doing each step.

Start by building your identity. http://jamesclear.com/identity-based-habits

Focus on small behaviors, not life–changing transformations. http://jamesclear.com/why-is-it-so-hard-to-form-good-habits

Develop a routine that gets you going regardless of how motivated you feel. http://jamesclear.com/how-to-get-motivated

Stick to the schedule and forget about the results. http://jamesclear.com/schedule-goals

When you slip up, get back on track as quickly as possible. http://jamesclear.com/get-back-on-track

Mental toughness comes down to your habits. It’s about doing the things you know you’re supposed to do on a more consistent basis. It’s about your dedication to daily practice and your ability to stick to a schedule.

How Have You Developed Mental Toughness?

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