Sex Talk and Q & A

Miss_Leah wrote: #1: I don't think that it should be assumed that men generally don't watch porn which features intimacy or romanticism unless it's with a woman.

That is very true. When I [strike]watched[/strike], being open and honest, watch porn it frequently will feature romanticism. I actually sometimes prefer the people to appear to have some sort of connection.

Miss_Leah wrote: #2: Um what? Make your own? While I'm not opposed to that if that's what gets you off, I'm not sure that making you own porn in the best way to combat negative porn stereotypes I'm against "bad porn" and very open about my sexuality and my sexual nature, but that doesn't mean I want millions of people to see my punani on the internet. Especially since I am looking for a new job at the moment

I don't have anything really to comment about this other than that it's a great response. :laugh:

My only real concern with porn being viewed by of age adults is when the porn becomes a substitute for actual sex with your partner. If youre watching porn but not having sex with your significant other, you need to have some conversations.


My biggest gripe about porn... it being used as sexual education. If you're looking for a sexual experience that is satisfying to both you AND your partner (particularly female partners) porn will not lead you to the promised land. It needs one of those "Do not try this at home" or "Individual results may vary" warning labels :woohoo: :laugh:

Brenna wrote: It needs one of those "Do not try this at home" or "Individual results may vary" warning labels :woohoo: :laugh:

THIS!!!!

Trisskar wrote:

OB1Shinobi wrote: imo the best way to "combat" the negative side of porn is to invest in its positive potential by making your own

Unless you are too self concious (like me) to show off your body like that haha!! I used to do "Commissions" for people which included educational examples.......After two kids....No thanks

well good for you for what you have done, i think thats very cool

and anyway its not necessarily necessary to put it on the internet lol but yeah, im with you for the most part: not quite courageous enough to be the one to push culture forward in this arena either lol

but it seems to me that one of the reasons that people are as self conscious as we are is because we've all been indoctrinated to unrealistic standards of beauty, and so "normal people" dont feel comfortable putting ourselfves out there

so theres a cycle there because all anyone sees is the exceptional or now really the artificial, as almost none of the "beautiful" people that we see in ads and entertainment actually look the way we see them

i mean its all make up and lighting and photoshop, surgery and crazy dieting pills irl

so, beauty is artificial today, and we're all cowed by it because we a feel like we would be alone and ridiculed if we challenged it
so no one (well, few) challenges it, so the artificial reigns

Miss_Leah wrote:

OB1Shinobi wrote: this should link to the "is your penis normal size" topic lol

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if you want to find it you can find "women friendly" porn and couples porn and porn that is made with the intent of being more like real sex

i may have even heard of the existence of online communities dedicated to couples filming and sharing their own real sex and love making

imo the best way to "combat" the negative side of porn is to invest in its positive potential by making your own

#1: I don't think that it should be assumed that men generally don't watch porn which features intimacy or romanticism unless it's with a woman.

i think you read a bias that i didnt write lol
but i will say that my assumption is that the majority of straight men are jus as uniinterested in man on man porn as i am, and could care less for the romance at all in terms of dialogue and story

and i dont need much of it in the touching either but thats more a matt ler of mood of themoment

man there were a lot of M's in that sentence

but when a couple waches together, the romance can be a good thing, the cheesy script can keep things lighthearted and the teasing and romantic touching help build the mood
(notice all i said was "couple" - i didnt specify gender or orientation)

i assume that a lot of others feel the same way

i also assume that gay men are a hefty portion of the consumer base of porn industry

#2: Um what? Make your own? While I'm not opposed to that if that's what gets you off, I'm not sure that making you own porn in the best way to combat negative porn stereotypes I'm against "bad porn" and very open about my sexuality and my sexual nature, but that doesn't mean I want millions of people to see my punani on the internet. Especially since I am looking for a new job at the moment

well like i said it doesnt have to be shared with everybody

and there is definitely potential that this could bite you in the tenders some day, as many people have learned

a lot of trust and confidence in each other is needed and maybe even some kind of safety precautions

it can be as simple or complicated as the couple wants; from turning your phones camara and setting it on the night stand one night when youre both drunk and silly, to writing a script and designing costumes and sets and props

for people who are creative and adventurous enough to go for it, its a cool opportunity to learn something about film making and story telling, and its way more exciting and bonding (or at least bondaging) than going to Olive Garden

also, good luck to you on your job hunt

OB1Shinobi wrote:

Trisskar wrote:

OB1Shinobi wrote: imo the best way to "combat" the negative side of porn is to invest in its positive potential by making your own

Unless you are too self concious (like me) to show off your body like that haha!! I used to do "Commissions" for people which included educational examples.......After two kids....No thanks

well good for you for what you have done, i think thats very cool

and anyway its not necessarily necessary to put it on the internet lol but yeah, im with you for the most part: not quite courageous enough to be the one to push culture forward in this arena either lol

but it seems to me that one of the reasons that people are as self conscious as we are is because we've all been indoctrinated to unrealistic standards of beauty, and so "normal people" dont feel comfortable putting ourselfves out there

so theres a cycle there because all anyone sees is the exceptional or now really the artificial, as almost none of the "beautiful" people that we see in ads and entertainment actually look the way we see them

i mean its all make up and lighting and photoshop, surgery and crazy dieting pills irl

so, beauty is artificial today, and we're all cowed by it because we a feel like we would be alone and ridiculed if we challenged it
so no one (well, few) challenges it, so the artificial reigns

Yes and no. I do think there are alot of beautiful people out there who beat themselves up because of social expectations of beauty.

But for me it is all me. I don't want to be skinny. I don't to be a goddess. I don't even want to be ripped or toned or any of that. I just don't want to have so many stretch marks my tummy folds or breasts so huge it makes every shirt I wear be Larges and extra large when my waist is medium. Get rid of those two things and I'll star my own Educational series no problem

New topic: Bisexuality

I wasn't born bisexual. I was born and spent most of my life straight as an arrow. But then, science fiction happened and it got me to thinking: in a possible future where humanity is spread across planets and galaxies, will we become less picky about who we choose to romantically pair with? Will we have non-human options? Does physical gender really matter all that much? I blame BioWare for all of this

I mean, we obviously all have particular traits (physical and mental) that we are attracted to, but should gender box us into only selecting from one group or another? In the same way that race used to be a reason to date someone or not, will gender become a non-issue in the future?

And while thinking all of those strange thoughts, I found that my mind had opened to not seeing gender as a barrier. I mean, I'm still *mostly* attracted to men, but every now and then a fantastic woman will catch my eye.

Do you think sexuality can evolve?

Leah Starspectre wrote: New topic: Bisexuality

I wasn't born bisexual. I was born and spent most of my life straight as an arrow. But then, science fiction happened and it got me to thinking: in a possible future where humanity is spread across planets and galaxies, will we become less picky about who we choose to romantically pair with? Will we have non-human options? Does physical gender really matter all that much? I blame BioWare for all of this

I mean, we obviously all have particular traits (physical and mental) that we are attracted to, but should gender box us into only selecting from one group or another? In the same way that race used to be a reason to date someone or not, will gender become a non-issue in the future?

And while thinking all of those strange thoughts, I found that my mind had opened to not seeing gender as a barrier. I mean, I'm still *mostly* attracted to men, but every now and then a fantastic woman will catch my eye.

Do you think sexuality can evolve?

The Joy of some truths are found rather if we believe or not. Can sexuality evolve? I believe it has and it will , when my son reaches his moments of entrance to adding sexuality to his life, then too it will change. Change in every part...not in only certain parts. Everything WILL change. Evolve change add subtract u know. Knowing this some times it makes things... OK.

Leah Starspectre wrote: New topic: Bisexuality

Do you think sexuality can evolve?

In all likelyhood, we will involved into Try-sexuals. Meaning we'll "try" just about anything once.

Well that kind of went a few different directions there Leah. :laugh:

On the sci-fi side of things. I think that if we start to encounter other intelligent species on other planets then I also think that some humans will be attracted to them. There will also people who see it as "an abomination against nature" much as some people already see homosexuality. People will be attracted to what they're attracted to. As long as it's consensual it's okay.

On a strictly human level now I think as society changes perceptions of sexuality will change also. I'm not sure if that means that sexuality itself changes though. I've occasionally wondered if homosexuality and bisexuality are actually occurring more commonly in people now, as it seems to be, or if society is just becoming more accepting of it resulting in fewer people hiding it. Have the numbers of people were are homosexual and/or bisexual (or anything else for that matter) actually changed in recent years or have more people just felt more comfortable opening up about it?

On an individual level I think sexuality can certainly evolve. A person can spend part of their life "straight as an arrow" as you put it and then change. Sexual attraction is a personal preference and those change all through people's lives. I hated cottage cheese until I was fifteen. I didn't like mushrooms until about the same time. I didn't like wearing anything other than jeans and graphic tee's until I was 22 (it's still my preferred everyday style but I also enjoy getting dressed up from time to time).