My confession

We are Jedi, not executioners, you want to be told off for your misbehaving? we're not those people, we forgive.

You're asking people here to scold you for your behavior....something that is frowned upon here...we are not punishers, merely negotiators of peace...If you're seeking punishment then we're not the ones you need.

Sorry if no one else agrees with me but I don't think that was actually your wife LTK, the way you write with capitalizing full words for emphasis...it's unlikely you married your wife for her similarity in words and i also don't think her main priority is to come check out the ToTJO forums during marital issues either.

Batman Begins wrote: [as Wayne Manor is burning down]
Bruce Wayne: What have I done, Alfred? Everything my family... my father built...
Alfred Pennyworth: The Wayne legacy is more than bricks and mortar, sir.
Bruce Wayne: I wanted to save Gotham, I failed
Alfred Pennyworth: Why do we fall sir? So we might learn to pick ourselves up
Bruce Wayne: You still haven't given up on me?
Alfred Pennyworth: Never

As someone who knew the situation much better than most (from the opposite side of things) most of this is infact news to me

But thank you for being open about this and thank you for making the best decision you feel you can to help deal with the situation

I hope you can right the wrongs of your past and I wish you and your wife are able to sort out the damage done to your marriage because of these events

May The Force be with you, Always LTK

PS. If you really do ever need help and you feel ready then we are here for you

This is very unfortunate, breaking trust (especially in marriage) is not (nor should not) be easily forgiven nor easily repaired...trust is a sacred bond, breaking that bond is destrucive to self as well as others...it's unfortunate that in this instance multiple families have been damaged.

Ltk is doing what he feels (knows) to be right in order to begin the long arduous process of repairing the damage caused...in time he will hopefully be succesful in this endeavor, then if he is truly ready he will be welcomed back with open arms to restore everyones faith in him...we will not forgt his contributions nor the lessons learned from his mistake...

Go in peace brother, set your life in order, and when the time is right we will greet your return.

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SeanChing wrote:

Learn_To_Know wrote: This is not LTK, this is his wife, Amanda. Don't any of you see? He's leaving the site because he has shattered all trust between us. His actions show that he can't be trusted online. This was a hobby of his and he's chosen to transfer those HOURS he spent on here to spend with his family trying to repair what he broke- not exactly exiling himself. These responses sicken me. This is the first time I've ever browsed anything on this site, and I can't believe you all are concerned with him staying to help contribute to YOUR discussions. How about him finding a way to make his marriage work? To rebuild trust with his wife - (you know, since I just read about his professed love to another woman & his intentions to leave me during the end of a pregnancy)? And to spend time with his wife & kids? I know you all are his friends, not mine, but is there really no one who can see that leaving what brought on this whole horrid mess for us is a good idea?

Amanda, you misunderstand our intentions entirely (at least the intentions of csmith and myself). We both told LTK that he should do what he needs to do - even if that means leaving this site. If that is what he needs to resolve this terrible issue, then do it, by all means.

So we are not "concerned with him staying to help contribute to YOUR discussions" and I think it's overkill when you say that "These responses sicken me". That's uncalled for and unjustified.

This is Michael again. My wife deserves empathy and understanding in this whole mess. As much as it pains me to admit it, the one person that has given her the most empathy and compassion is Tripp Borz (Scott), the husband of Reliah that I was being dishonest and manipulative with. He has been a victim of Reliah's actions and my wife has been a victim of my own actions. To criticize my wife in such an emotionally hard time is just SO uncalled for SeanChing. Seek to understand her perspective and how hurt I've made her. I love my wife dearly and I cannot sit back and watch her be attacked when I'm the one that needs to face the music and consequences of everything that's happened.

You must all understand that I only admitted to what was happening AFTER I was cornered with it and I couldn't hide it anymore. There is no integrity or honor in coming forth with the truth after there is the barrel of a gun in your face. At that point it was cowardly survival.

Please don't say hurtful things to my wife, especially with what I've put her through.

Metsu Desal wrote: We are Jedi, not executioners, you want to be told off for your misbehaving? we're not those people, we forgive.

You're asking people here to scold you for your behavior....something that is frowned upon here...we are not punishers, merely negotiators of peace...If you're seeking punishment then we're not the ones you need.

Sorry if no one else agrees with me but I don't think that was actually your wife LTK, the way you write with capitalizing full words for emphasis...it's unlikely you married your wife for her similarity in words and i also don't think her main priority is to come check out the ToTJO forums during marital issues either.

It was my wife.

I don't have the time to try and convince you though. I wanted to clear her name and she's just being dragged through the mud.

She doesn't deserve that here. I wish you all could understand the hurt and betrayal she has felt and seek to comfort her and realize the damaging things I did.

I need to go away now and try and do what I can for my wife. She deserves understanding, love and respect during this time, not discouragement or being put to the question or accused of anything.

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