My confession

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My first wife and I....the beginning of the end was a similar situation. We were talking about it yesterday at our son's school, matter of fact. And my response once busted was the same as your will be. I think we both tried to make it work, but at the time, it was near impossible for me. And I think to an extent, we both regret it.

So, you do what you have to do, bro. You have work to do. But from what I know of you here, you are capable of it.

What you did to your wife and children was (in my eyes) a cruel act. You broke the trust that holds a family together, all you can do now is look rebuild that. To use the universe of Star Wars as an example here, there were Jedi who had almsot fallen to the Dark Side but came back to the light. They felt so guilty and ashamed of the things they had done that they resolved to commit all their life to serving the light.

You could've comepletely broken your family, it is now up to you to commit yourself to them entirely.

However, this does not mean that you should have to turn your back on the ways of Jediism. Yes, you should maybe leave this site. It will allow you to better commit to your family. But Jediism is not a site, it's a belief...and you can still carry that belief within you.

I am not trying to judge you or your actions here, I am simply trying to give you my own advice, do with that what you will. Your wife actually seems to be quite an amazing woman in that she has the capacity to contemplate giving you this second chance, this is to her credit.

Although I do not agree with what you did in the slightest, I can see that you are sincere when you say that your are truly sorry about this. You have fully humbled yourself in light of what's happened and even went so far as to fully uncover what had transpired, so that we are fully aware of what you have done. For this, I admire you.

Despite your actions (and the fact that I don't know you very well at all), I will be sad to know that you have left this community. Your efforts in exposing yourself to this extent and accepting complete responsibility shows to me that you are a good person, Even good people can sometimes find thesmelves doing terrible things. This community would be stronger if it were to have more people with the power to humble themselves as you have done. For that reason, you will be a loss to us and I'm sure you will be missed.


Still, at the end of this I understand that you must go. It is for the benefit of what you care most about.

May The Force Be With You,
Shao Kyras.

No one is perfect, we all make mistakes some big and some are small. I hope that you guys can pull through and continue as a family.

Family is so important, even in my life, let alone the family crap I deal with, with my boyfriend. Having a family to fall back to has helped me through the toughest times.

As I said, I hope you guys can work through this. It's a lot I know. I hope for the best outcome, whatever it may be.

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i hope you sort things out soon...
MTFBWY -shadow

I'm so sorry to hear about all this. It is very unfortunate. Hopefully you can both learn from this and succeed as a couple and just as importantly, as a family.

My heart goes out to both of you. I too have lived through similar moments in my life. Nobody is perfect. But the opportunity for growth and deep wisdom is present here. I wish you two the very best. It has been a pleasure to know you.

Learn_To_Know wrote: This is not LTK, this is his wife, Amanda. Don't any of you see? He's leaving the site because he has shattered all trust between us. His actions show that he can't be trusted online. This was a hobby of his and he's chosen to transfer those HOURS he spent on here to spend with his family trying to repair what he broke- not exactly exiling himself. These responses sicken me. This is the first time I've ever browsed anything on this site, and I can't believe you all are concerned with him staying to help contribute to YOUR discussions. How about him finding a way to make his marriage work? To rebuild trust with his wife - (you know, since I just read about his professed love to another woman & his intentions to leave me during the end of a pregnancy)? And to spend time with his wife & kids? I know you all are his friends, not mine, but is there really no one who can see that leaving what brought on this whole horrid mess for us is a good idea?

Most of us engaged with your husband in a way that was neither romantic nor manipulative or whatnot. Many of us also have families and spend a great many (far more than your husband) hours on the site. And go to gatherings. And stay up til 3am to knight people. It's sad to see a friend leave us as a smaller man than he was when he got in. None of this had to happen, that's why I will not be celebrating.

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You're not the first and will not be the last. We're all doomed to go through that "mind switches to auxiliary power" thing but usually get the opportunity to restore primary before a bunch of romulans decide to ruin our day.

V-tog, Ren and and Shao Krys may have gotten the point I was trying to make aross better. Sorry for any confusion.

Learn_To_Know wrote: This is not LTK, this is his wife, Amanda. Don't any of you see? He's leaving the site because he has shattered all trust between us. His actions show that he can't be trusted online. This was a hobby of his and he's chosen to transfer those HOURS he spent on here to spend with his family trying to repair what he broke- not exactly exiling himself. These responses sicken me. This is the first time I've ever browsed anything on this site, and I can't believe you all are concerned with him staying to help contribute to YOUR discussions. How about him finding a way to make his marriage work? To rebuild trust with his wife - (you know, since I just read about his professed love to another woman & his intentions to leave me during the end of a pregnancy)? And to spend time with his wife & kids? I know you all are his friends, not mine, but is there really no one who can see that leaving what brought on this whole horrid mess for us is a good idea?

Amanda, you misunderstand our intentions entirely (at least the intentions of csmith and myself). We both told LTK that he should do what he needs to do - even if that means leaving this site. If that is what he needs to resolve this terrible issue, then do it, by all means.

So we are not "concerned with him staying to help contribute to YOUR discussions" and I think it's overkill when you say that "These responses sicken me". That's uncalled for and unjustified.