A couple of questions...

One other thing to consider - all things have a natural lifespan and this includes relationships. When someone dies, or a partnership breaks down, it is usual (and healthy!) to release our feelings through expressions of grief. But holding onto that person long after their time has gone is not good for us. Clinging to friendships and relationships that should have been let go, pining for the dead to the extent that we are not able to live our own lives, continuing to pursue habits and practices that we know are bad for us.... all of these are the kind of attachments that are talked about.

Love is a wondrous thing and takes many forms. I personally don't see these as attachments, more as shared moments of joy.

Attachment is mindless; love is mindful.

Thank you. These are both very wise responses

NO !!! YOU MUST BE CELIBATE - NEVER TOUCH NOR LOOK AT ANYONE - AND MIND YOUR THOUGHTS !!!

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- oooh ! if that were the case, we would be so screwed !

The Jedi are Love ... and yes, we love fully and very deeply.

Yet, we are called to wisdom about it. Love is not a thought, it is neither desire nor possession. Love is not jealous. It is not an agreement. It is abandon, it is giving of one's self without the expectation of recompense. It is neither by Reason nor is it reasonable ... When it is genuine, it is intensely spiritual.

Does this help ?

Wow, I must compliment the wisdom of the answers I've received

Even in the Lore, we find that the attachment rule is "silly".

It helps cause the demise of the universe. Anakin was constantly being told that he couldn't love... Look how that turned out.

But, look to the New Jedi Order, and we see that they were encouraged to love.

And a Jedi Knight was forced to kill her Sith brother... that didn't work out so well either. :laugh: :whistle:

Marijuana, B&D, and S&M Jedi wedding ceremony... just a thought.

Attachment to material goods seems to be the main issue that people have. I love my car, my house, my tv, my iPhone, and I'm willing to murder other people or watch them die so I can keep it. I turn a blind eye to child slave labour so I can have a microsoft mouse for a little less money.

StudentOfTheForce wrote: Masters and councilors, I am confused on the topic of being in a relationship. I know Jedi should not form attachments, but is ceremonially pronouncing love for another anything like that? Basically I want to know if one can be a Jedi and still date/ marry?

"Obsessive/unhealthy attachments" are what we are wanting to avoid... In my opinion...

My wife, kids, family, phone, house, car, TOTJO, martial arts, and a whole lot more.... lol...

The inanimate objects are the easiest (should be) to let go...

Then, choices would have to be made...

I love my daughter, but, I had to divorce her mom.... For my mental health....

Long story... lol, aren't they all when of this type?

When an attachment forces a "questionable" decision....

A decision that would seem counter to "normal" thought processes....

That "normal" thoughts might deem as detrimental to the well being of something or "someone"...

Then it becomes "unhealthy" or "obsessive" attachment....

And should be avoided....

Jestor wrote: I had to divorce her mom.... For my mental health....

I know that feeling Master J