Dealing with Frustration

Arrrg…. This is frustrating the *&@# out of me!!!

What to do when you reach “that” point? The point when rational thought goes out the window and swearing at some inanimate object, or beating it into submission, seems to be the best course of action available.

Me? I try, and I said “try”, to inhale and walk away while exhaling. Sometimes just a few seconds away from the problem can change your whole perspective and attitude.

With each breath I take in I focus just on how it feels to breathe that breath in. Then, as I exhale, I remind myself of what it is I am frustrated with. It’s just a machine…
This, of course, is different with each situation I find myself in. Sometimes it sounds like, they’re just expressing their point of view and we don’t have to agree...

No matter what the situation is, being frustrated seldom helps to resolve it.

Most of us have some kind of coping mechanism to help us deal with these situations when they arise. Perhaps we can share some of these with others? Maybe there will be something posted in the thread that may help others, or they can use.

When I'm frustrated at a person, I try to imagine what they're feeling, too. And why they're being so frustrating. Most of the time, I end up feeling bad for them and I'm able to better deal with my own frustration. Venting to someone helps, too.

If I'm frustrated with inanimate object, I walk away. That's it. Just stop and come back later when I'm not so angry. I do this all the time with craft projects and video games

Sometimes I get really frustrated. The first thing I try to do is detach myself from the emotion. I try to examine my actions and my thoughts as if I was watching and listening to someone else. Difficult, but it can be helpful. What I hope to gain by doing this is really determining the source of the frustration. If I identify an actual problem that I think could be fixed I'll do that. No sense getting mad at the splinter if I could just remove it instead, right? Many times, though, it's just me getting worked up and the source of my frustration is just me, or are things beyond my control. In these cases the best I can do is try to rid myself of these negative emotions.

To do so I go somewhere to be alone for a minute. I close my eyes and imagine that all of my emotions correspond to a color. Usually I just divide up positive and negative to white and red respectively. I imagine the red, negative, energy coursing through my body and then I try to focus it. I slowly move it towards one arm. As the red energy leaves parts of my body all that remains is the white, positive, energy. Once the red energy is all in one arm I focus it down to just that hand. Then, with all my might, I hurl it out, usually into a pretty solid wall (don't want to accidentally discover I'm telekinetic and hurt someone :laugh: ). Then I usually feel a bit better.

I realize that in reality what I just did was force myself to calm down, take deep breaths, and just remove myself from whatever situation I was dealing with, but the visualization of the energies gives me something to focus on other than whatever is annoying me.

I deal with it. Either by modifying the object in some way or by replacing it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N9wsjroVlu8

And why is it seen as a problem anyway? It doesn't work, it has to be replaced. You might as well do the fun part of the recycling process yourself.

There is an old 80 s saying Garbage in Garbage out. I've been to the points in my life where actions define the individual. To be ready, Semper Paratus, I think is a great focus to have some days. I am usually ready with more different approaches than what I have been raised with. In those times of over stresses and overwhelming things I stop, I think about my focus, (adjust accordingly for example and identification. ) When I find my course was off, I simply re plot my course and got back on course. Same with my anger, hey... there it is... wow ok... well. let's let Carlos b angry but there's things that gotta be done. It's tough. It takes practice. It takes ACTUAL practice. Doing it, acting different during those times. Best part is bit can be a point of relief and release or a point of impass. It's up to us everyday how we act, cuz to me, that's what it is, how I act when I get frustrated. I let what's inside, out. Mindfulness is a great...(in Tony the tigers voice) greeeeeeeeeat way to combat and tame the beast.! Hope this gives a different view. Maybe he Living Force be with yall

Hahaha!!

Ren thats long been one of my favorite moments in a movie EVER!

I write stories or wash dishes depending on whats available and who it's involving. Doing productive things help to keep the mind from clinging onto the frustrations and in the case of stories it helps to put things into perspective....Much like a personal Jimminiy Cricket Your characters tend to talk to you with internal dialouge

"Hey stupid. Chill out! You think that was bad? Try battling a sea monster (Gauleel) for real! Or, Remember that werewolf you made me fight? Pah! Your issues pale in comparison! Go apologize or something..."

carlos.martinez3 wrote: There is an old 80 s saying...

Dang, now I feel old. :blink:

LOL :laugh:

STop, breath and reset. if that does not work, go for a walk. I do my best to shift the energy.

Whenever it's an inanimate object frustrating me, I'll swear that thing into submission. :laugh:

My line of work requires me to deal with customers complaining, and the strategy that works the best is simply listening and empathising. It works wonders to remember that I'm just the scapegoat, so insults just bounce right off me.

Wescli Wardest wrote:

carlos.martinez3 wrote: There is an old 80 s saying...

Dang, now I feel old. :blink:

LOL :laugh:

We are I call it, experience points. Smiley face!

Whatever frustrates me, I walk away until I am clearheaded. I then come back and [strike]destroy[/strike] er, solve it.

Depends,.. when there is real catastrophy and mayhem i have a very level head and handle situations with utmost care and caution , but when i cannot find my car keys in the morning i can throw a fit that makes Kylo Ren look like the calm one...

When my frustrations are beyond my ability to focus I practice focusing with mindful meditation.

Anger is very useful. It gives focus and energy...but sometimes, the energy is more than we can focus.

MartaLina wrote: Depends,.. when there is real catastrophy and mayhem i have a very level head and handle situations with utmost care and caution , but when i cannot find my car keys in the morning i can throw a fit that makes Kylo Ren look like the calm one...

My character as well. I work like a very efficient machine when sh** hits the fan, but if I can't find the remote or the printer has a paper jam, I switch to melt-down mode.