Knights of Awakening: Jedi Safe Spaces (Charles McBride)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QjGENNl7pzk&feature=youtu.be

Listen and think.

Is this the right direction for Jedi to go?

Five minutes in, I skipped to eleven minutes. I heard "Let's focus on creating lines rather than erasing them." I stopped watching.

Pretty sure he was saying (at that moment) that: let's NOT create lines. He was quoting the workshop he is criticizing.

By the way, to be perfectly honest, the workshop he is criticizing does NOT exist.

Connor L. wrote: Pretty sure he was saying (at that moment) that: let's NOT create lines. He was quoting the workshop he is criticizing.

By the way, to be perfectly honest, the workshop he is criticizing does NOT exist.

Ok it seems THIS is what sparked it no? http://californiajedi.org/defend-and-protect-safe-spaces-and-privilege/

The over all tone of the video is one I can get. Though I think a more open and less hostile dialog might serve better. I mean the idea of a safe space in the Jedi community is hilarious in my view. We should always be challenging each other. In fact I have bumped heads with many people here and learned a lot from it. In fact I am very grateful for Snowy causing me to question my stances consistently. I might not often agree with her but if no one ever challenged me how would I grow. So creating divisions and silencing people based on skin color or sexual preference as that article linked suggests is a horrid idea.

What I think is more telling is the response from a so called big wig in the Jedi community to the video. Basically if we cant agree calmly and talk civilly its best not to respond but of course that person as far as I can see talks the talk but does not walk the walk.

Wow..... 20 minutes of eye-rolling and head shaking has left me a little dizzy.

Now, everybody is entitled to their opinions, but if you're asking for mine, I'd say that this is just an angry little man who doesn't understand the current social climate and so, is lashing out at it. He's like that old grandpa who complains about technology and "kids these days" because he's unwilling (or incapable) of evolving his own world views

Calling this kind of workshop (if it exists) ridiculous, appalling, and stupid shows a major lack of respect and empathy. And I couldn't help but think that his own privilege may be what's preventing him from gaining that respect and empathy. Maybe he resents being told he has privilege, or simply refuses to acknowledge it. Either way...no bueno.

Getting belligerent over change won't stop change from happening, because as Bob Dylan said:

Come mothers and fathers
Throughout the land
And don't criticize
What you can't understand
Your sons and your daughters
Are beyond your command
Your old road is rapidly agin'
Please get out of the new one
If you can't lend your hand
For the times they are a-changin'

ADDENDUM: It was kind of hilarious how he considered himself "ancient" when he's only 3 years older than me. I've lived though light-speed technological development, too, but I'm CERTAINLY not ancient.

I watched enough of it to get the gist of it (18 minutes). There are a few things I agree with.
The concept of the "safe space" as popularized by the internet is a double edged sword. I think Jedi should act in such a way that is respectful. People who suffer from things such as clinical depression, general/social anxiety, acute and post-traumatic stress disorders, etc. should be recognized and different approaches should be taken if we know someone suffers from a certain ailment. For example, it might just be good fun to set off fireworks with some friends, but some people I know with PTSD resulting from wartime experiences REALLY don't like being around fireworks. It's my responsibility, as far as I'm concerned, to keep that kind of thing in mind while interacting with specific people. But no one has the right to never be offended, never be challenged. These safe spaces are not real life. They are echo chambers, a place where someone can pat themselves on the back and get patted on the back by others and never see any difference of opinion or face any challenge or experience any growth.
I think we as Jedi should encourage being mindful of our surroundings, including those around us. Certain things we do may or may not be appropriate, given the people we're with. But I don't think we should create echo chambers. I don't think we should jump through hoops during conversations to avoid any instance of possibly offending anyone in the world. I don't agree with the "safe space". I do agree with respecting each other. As a man pretending to be Abraham Lincoln once said, "Be excellent to each other... and PARTY ON, DUDES!"

When we discuss Jedi philosophy, and particularly the Jedi mindset or attitude, the term objective arises often. One ought to be objective or, at least, as objective as one is able.

On the face of it, there's nothing wrong with this.

That said, one can't really operate completely independently of one's culture or language. And, for many, that can present a problem. For many, the objective perspective has become conflated with the white, male, cisgender perspective.

(Being in that group does not make one a racist, sexist, etc. off the bat. But many in that group, as well as those of us who resemble it, have engaged in racist, sexist, etc. praxis, and owning that is a way forward. True of everyone, really.)

This is not an issue unique to Jedi. I think it is an endemic feature of our culture. The trick is that when a Jedi decides that he or she has achieved objectivity, it may only be that they have taken on this flawed and, frankly, destructive perspective. My sense is that the path to objectivity leads through intersectional thought, note in avoidance of it.

The value of discussing these real difference (real in the sense that they help decide who get life and who gets the chair, who has been allowed to own property, who was chosen to be property, etc.) is that it provides a broader perspective. One does not achieve objectivity simply be discounting variables with which one does not agree. Instead, one must seek to understand. Often, that conversation can be difficult.

And I get it. If you are a white dude, you may feel that there is an accusation on your head the moment you step out of your door. And yes, some of the rhetoric is not helpful.

And yes, some times the idea of safe space can get out of hand. No concept is immune to that. In this case, a few other concepts have gotten out of hand, which makes the conversation necessary. And we are still learning to have these conversations, even among those of us that really want to. We're all learning.

Sometimes when we say that we should ignore our differences, what some of us hear is, "I'm going to be me, and you be just the part of who you are that overlaps with with me, we'll both ignore the rest of you, and we'll all get along."

You might be saying this without meaning to. This is the difference between being a racist and engaging in racist praxis. Some of our societal norms are inherently racist and/or sexist, but we act them out without realizing that because it does not affect us adversely.

How do we heal all this? We have to talk about it, talk about everybody, and make sure everyone is heard. Yes, it's not the way we are used to dealing with these issues, but we need to try it.

Dealing with things the way we are used to is what got us here in the first place. We've been making the same error for a very long time. It's time to try a different way.

TheDude wrote: I watched enough of it to get the gist of it (18 minutes). There are a few things I agree with.
The concept of the "safe space" as popularized by the internet is a double edged sword. I think Jedi should act in such a way that is respectful. People who suffer from things such as clinical depression, general/social anxiety, acute and post-traumatic stress disorders, etc. should be recognized and different approaches should be taken if we know someone suffers from a certain ailment. For example, it might just be good fun to set off fireworks with some friends, but some people I know with PTSD resulting from wartime experiences REALLY don't like being around fireworks. It's my responsibility, as far as I'm concerned, to keep that kind of thing in mind while interacting with specific people. But no one has the right to never be offended, never be challenged. These safe spaces are not real life. They are echo chambers, a place where someone can pat themselves on the back and get patted on the back by others and never see any difference of opinion or face any challenge or experience any growth.
I think we as Jedi should encourage being mindful of our surroundings, including those around us. Certain things we do may or may not be appropriate, given the people we're with. But I don't think we should create echo chambers. I don't think we should jump through hoops during conversations to avoid any instance of possibly offending anyone in the world. I don't agree with the "safe space". I do agree with respecting each other. As a man pretending to be Abraham Lincoln once said, "Be excellent to each other... and PARTY ON, DUDES!"

I think that's the point of "Safe Spaces" if they're done properly. To help people be more aware of those around them and then act/react appropriately.

I disagree with the assertion that we shouldn't offend or challenge anyone, but I do think that generally speaking, the more privilege someone naturally has, the less aware they tend to be about the disadvantages that others have. And teaching people to have the recognition can only be good.

I think that the term "safe space" has gotten a bad reputation and it's dismissed before understanding the meaning behind it.

Also, I reject the kind of all-or-nothing thinking that says that when we speak or meet it must always or never be challenging. One would hope that we could be intelligent enough to monitor our behavior and tailor it to the needs of a particular moment.

Leah Starspectre wrote: I think that's the point of "Safe Spaces" if they're done properly. To help people be more aware of those around them and then act/react appropriately.

I disagree with the assertion that we shouldn't offend or challenge anyone, but I do think that generally speaking, the more privilege someone naturally has, the less aware they tend to be about the disadvantages that others have. And teaching people to have the recognition can only be good.

I think that the term "safe space" has gotten a bad reputation and it's dismissed before understanding the meaning behind it.

I tend to reject notions of privilege based on race and gender, which are the primary suspects of "privilege" as far as I've seen. Any privilege in the West, as far as I can tell, is based solely on income. And that is something unavoidable in a capitalistic society, in my opinion. Really I think this concept of privilege is irrelevant. Buddha was a prince. Surely privileged. This did not prevent him from discovering the four noble truths and the eightfold path.
Privilege seems to me to be just another one of the artificial concepts (like race) which only serve to separate us from each other. I say it should be rejected entirely, like all of those other concepts. Then again, I'm not much of a capitalist... and I'm one of those who is frankly sick of hearing about how privileged I am from people who have no idea what my life has been like.

Thank you, everybody, for offering your thoughts.

Charles is a friend of mine, and he asked for my opinion. After I gave it to him, I decided I would seek out some other perspectives. It seems like many people feel Charles is demonizing the idea of protecting and providing Safe Spaces. But, in reality, he is decrying the softening of Jedi training.

As explained in the video, trainings that used to be common were:
Search and Rescue.
Lightsaber Fighting.
Martial Arts and Self Defense.
etc.

Now, he says, there is more of an abundance of courses on providing Safe Spaces, making people feel accepted and comfortable. In his eyes, he feels these things should be inherent before somebody even begins to be a Jedi. These things are basic human aspects. Every brother should extend his hand to his sister. He mentions in the video that most of the things people use Safe Spaces for are just common sense (i.e. let somebody of a different ethnicity lead the discussion when it comes to their ethnicity, as per their privilege and right). He doesn't think that's a bad idea. He just doesn't think we should be wasting time on it at a Gathering because it isn't Jedi-specific training.

Now, I am not sure I necessarily agree with that part. While Jedi are certainly a specialized field, we also are not above the average human (no matter how much Charles would like to be a demi-god). In our discussion, we both agreed that what we are really after in this type of training is Emotional Intelligence and Empathy training. In addition, providing Jedi the resources to teach people how to tap into their real power (Teach a man to fish...).

In other words, instead of Jedi being a babysitter for victims, make them teachers of victims to become victims no more. That is his real goal with the radio broadcast. To inspire Jedi to stop being merely shields for the weak, but to actively show that action solves problems.

It's not necessarily a bad idea. To echo Cabur, there is a time for every type of action. Sometimes, we will need to merely be protectors. Other times, we will have to do something about it. And, other times still, we will need to talk it through. Every situation will have its own goal.

So, there is no need for the all-or-nothing attitude that comes from Charles in this video. There is, though, a point to be made. We cannot forget our roots, and in our evolution, we cannot become soft.

TheDude wrote: I tend to reject notions of privilege based on race and gender, which are the primary suspects of "privilege" as far as I've seen. Any privilege in the West, as far as I can tell, is based solely on income. And that is something unavoidable in a capitalistic society, in my opinion. Really I think this concept of privilege is irrelevant. Buddha was a prince. Surely privileged. This did not prevent him from discovering the four noble truths and the eightfold path.
Privilege seems to me to be just another one of the artificial concepts (like race) which only serve to separate us from each other. I say it should be rejected entirely, like all of those other concepts. Then again, I'm not much of a capitalist... and I'm one of those who is frankly sick of hearing about how privileged I am from people who have no idea what my life has been like.

Have you spoken to anyone in a "less privileged" position what they thought about it? Why are you so sick of it?

Privilege is innate, an undercurrent, and has nothing to do with how a life has actually gone. It's all based in preconceived notions about gender/race/sexuality/wealth that have developed in our culture and society. Do you doubt that ethnic minorities have it harder *in general*? Or transgender persons? Or women? That doesn't mean that they ALL have had terrible lives, only that they are subjected to prejudices that say, your average cis white man doesn't. Which does not mean that ALL straight white men live charmed lives.

I've heard over and over from people in these less privileged groups that all the want is to be acknowledged, for people to understand their struggles, to not keep propagating the prejudices. Is that unreasonable?

Leah Starspectre wrote: Have you spoken to anyone in a "less privileged" position what they thought about it? Why are you so sick of it?

Yes, and many of them think the privilege idea is BS. Many of them think it's legitimate. Either way, opinion has nothing to do with reality. I, as a diabetic of Jewish descent (Jews being historically the most discriminated against group) who suffers from clinical depression and generalized anxiety don't see any benefit of being white, being male, etc. An individual may be personally privileged, but I think this concept of privilege does nothing but oversimplify human interaction, and I see it as a very oversimplified way of looking at the world. Simply put, I think reality is much more complex than that. And being someone who has been judged as a privileged individual due to my skin color and gender on a regular basis, it simply becomes obnoxious to constantly hear how privileged I am automatically, when I don't see that to be the case at all. It's too simplistic and it depends on the same kind of generalization that we see in all racist and sexist speech. I'm personally sick of it.

Privilege is innate, an undercurrent, and has nothing to do with how a life has actually gone. It's all based in preconceived notions about gender/race/sexuality/wealth that have developed in our culture and society.

If the fundamental concept of "privilege" has nothing at all to do with actual life experience and speaks nothing about how actually privileged a person may or may not be in life, then what's its purpose?

Do you doubt that ethnic minorities have it harder *in general*? Or transgender persons? Or women?

I don't think women have it harder than men, no. I think there are differences in the way men and women are treated, and I think the argument can be easily made that either side is ultimately preferred or given an easier time in modern society.
As for ethnic minorities, I think they do generally have it harder. Not because they're a minority, but because ethnic minorities tend to have lower income. I've had plenty of black professors, Asian professors, Indian professors... they're doing okay. They're not suffering from any discrimination. It's income, not race or ethnicity.
Trans people are certainly discriminated against, but again I don't think it's got anything to do with a systematic issue. I think the mental illness of gender dysphoria is something which must be cured and looked deeply into scientifically so that we can have solutions for the issue that don't involve hormone cocktails and body mutilation. For that to happen, there can't be any such stigma as there currently is which fundamentally denies that gender dysphoria is a mental illness. The biggest issue facing trans people today is NOT systematic discrimination, it's the attitudes taken in an attempt to be accepting which prevent real scientific advancement which can solve the issue of gender dysphoria and make their lives better overall.
Again, I think "privilege" is an irresponsible oversimplification. There are reasons why ethnic minorities and trans people have it harder. Those have to do with the field of cognitive science, health-based psychology, and income-based social classes in my opinion, not privilege or systematic racism, sexism, etc.

That doesn't mean that they ALL have had terrible lives, only that they are subjected to prejudices that say, your average cis white man doesn't. Which does not mean that ALL straight white men live charmed lives.

This paves the way for the assumption that if you see a straight white cis male that you can safely assume they've experienced certain privileges. I deny that assertion. The straight white cis male is also subject to prejudices that other people are not subject to. For example, there is a current trend for white people to be self-hating and see themselves as oppressors and the descendents of evil conquerors. The term "white pride" is seen as hate speech, when in reality there's nothing at all wrong with being proud of your heritage. There are even some who claim it's impossible to be racist against white people or sexist against males. There's surely a ton of evidence to suggest that straight cis white males are discriminated against plenty. To say otherwise, in my opinion, does nothing but discredit these victims. And I don't support victim blaming or anything of the sort. Again, if the term doesn't actually refer to realized privilege, it's a fundamentally useless one in my opinion.

I've heard over and over from people in these less privileged groups that all the want is to be acknowledged, for people to understand their struggles, to not keep propagating the prejudices. Is that unreasonable?

It's perfectly reasonable to act with empathy for other individuals. But I think the term privilege is one which depends on oversimplification and unjust generalization. I don't think it actually refers to anything tangible or realistic. I think it's overall a bad term. I think income-based social classes are a terrible thing, and that once that's solved most of the things that people attribute to "privilege" or systematic discrimination will disappear.

Marginalized people have chosen to express their feelings of victimhood though the concept of privilege.

Rather than tell them "You're not victims", why not instead try to understand why they feel that way and help to empower them?

Now I plan on watching the video later tonight when I'm not on duty as I am atm, but I have to say on the topic of privilege as it has been discussed so far in this thread. In my opinion(see what I did there), privilege in terms of what one person has vs another is entirely subjective and really hard to put anything solid on or into. Simply because what one considers a privileged life in definition can and does change from one person to the next. Someone who has a house and family and friends and cars and a good job may be more privileged then someone working 3 jobs who has barely any of those things living out of a motorhome. However, to that person with the house and family, and bills, and car payments and education money and all that money that comes in from their great job that immediately goes out the door, and house repairs and everything that the person living in the motorhome, may feel that the other person is more privileged leading a more simplified life.

I would like to hope that we are not judging ever based on what we have vs another, or necessarily whether our up-bringing in our minds or even others minds was considered to be enough "effort" or "lack of effort" compared to another. There is no way to properly judge that fairly. I don't think anyone has the right to honestly. Especially myself. As I had pointed out in one of my videos, you can compare a person who the worst thing in their life to ever happen to them is a broken nail, to someone who just lost their house and cars to a repossession, and emotionally, physically, their feeling of loss and frustration and pain can actually be the same amount, at the time they are experiencing it, only because they haven't experienced anything worse or less. So is it fair to say someone hasn't felt the same level of emotion or frustration or visa versa as another simply because of the amount of any physical loss or gain?

When some say others are more privileged then others its purely because others may have gotten what they themselves wish they could have had or lived through, but may not have any idea what that person actually went through or what other things have happened or even will happen in their lives. It just seems foolish for anyone to really judge that.

Again that's all in my opinion only.

i do acknowledge that there is inequality but i am not receptive to the use of "_ privilege" as the tool for communicating that

if marginalized people want to talk about how they have been marginalized then lets talk about that

tell me how you have been marginalized; im willing to listen
if you want to talk about police brutality, lets talk about police brutality

if you want to talk about access to education, good, so do i, lets talk about access to quality education

im open to a conversation about slavery and how there are connections between the current realities and the historical oppression and discrimination of blacks

im open to a conversation about womens wages and about lgbt rights to marry or work or use the bathroom of their choosing

but dont tell me that i personally bear responsibility for something that is out of my control, or talk to me as if my life is "privileged" because im not YOU and your life is sooo much harder than everyone elses

the system will let me die in the streets too buddy, and i am not moved by pity parties or histrionics

if you have an issue, lets talk about YOUR ISSUE

but im not interested in your opinon of my privilege: in fact, youre goingto lose an ally here because once you take the focus off of the actual issues, im not with you any more, because now youve made me into a villain when i am not one

the irony of stereotyping a group of people in order to battle against social stereotypes is just one more tragic example of how utterly stupid and shallow american culture has become

everyone is privileged in some context, and i think the focus should be on increasing all of our privilege rather than complaining that some huge demographic has too much, especially a demographic as large and diverse as "white people" or even "white men"

safe spaces
taking basic human respect and sensationalizing it tothe point where we start demanding "safe space" seems silly and "special snowflaky" to me

i dont know exactly what a " safe space" would look like but i imagine there would be padding on the walls and some gentle, soothing music over a PA

i think that culture moves forward in a healthy way only when people are free to speak their minds openly

i can agree with rules of courtesy, and if you have an open wound, i dont want to put salt in it (just as i dont like salt put in mine) but thats a case by case basis that we establish as a consequence of open communication, not some general ruleof law where we all have to censor every thought that might potentially offend some theoretical victim somewhere

protecting the general custom of free speech is WAAAAYYY more useful and important to society than generally demanding "safe spaces" for people to be comfortable in

if youre an uncomfortable person, youre going to be uncomfortable wherever you go until YOU learn to deal with it

OB1Shinobi wrote: i do acknowledge that there is inequality but i am not receptive to the use of "_ privilege" as te tool for communicating that

if marginalized people want to talk about how they have been marginalized then lets talk about that

tell me how you have been marginalized; im willing to listen
if you want to talk about police brutality, lets talk about police brutality

if you want to talk about access to education, good, so do i
lets talk about it

im open to a conversation about slavery and the connections between the current realities and the historical oppression and discrimination

im open to a conversation about womens wages and about lgbt rights to marry or work or use the bathroom of their choosing

but dont tell me that i personally bear responsibility for something that is out of my control or talk to me as if my life is "privileged" because im not YOU and your life is sooo much harder than everyone elses

the system will let me die in the streets too buddy, and i am not moved by pity parties or histrionics

if you have an issue, lets talk about YOUR ISSUE

im not interested in your opinon of my privilege

nearly everyone is privileged in some context, definitely in america

the irony of stereotyping a group of people in order to battle against social stereotypes is just one more tragic example of how utterly stupid and shallow american culture has become

taking basic human respect and sensationalizing it tothe point where we proclaim "safe space" seems silly and "special snowflaky" to me

i dont know exactly what a " safe space" would look like but i imagine there would be padding on the walls and some gentle, soothing music over a PA

i think that culture moves forward in a healthy way only when people are free to speak their minds openly

i can agree with rules of courtesy, and if you have an open wound, i dont want to put salt in it (just as i dont like salt put in mine) but thats a case by case basis that we establish as a consequence of open communication, not some general ruleof law where we all have to censor every thought that might potentially offend some theoretical victim somewhere

protecting the general custom free speech is WAAAAYYY more useful and important to society than generally demanding "safe spaces" for people to be comfortable in

if youre an uncomfortable person, youre going to be uncomfortable wherever you go until YOU learn to deal with it

Everyone should hear this...

OB1Shinobi wrote: i do acknowledge that there is inequality but i am not receptive to the use of "_ privilege" as te tool for communicating that

if marginalized people want to talk about how they have been marginalized then lets talk about that

tell me how you have been marginalized; im willing to listen
if you want to talk about police brutality, lets talk about police brutality

if you want to talk about access to education, good, so do i
lets talk about it

im open to a conversation about slavery and the connections between the current realities and the historical oppression and discrimination

im open to a conversation about womens wages and about lgbt rights to marry or work or use the bathroom of their choosing

but dont tell me that i personally bear responsibility for something that is out of my control or talk to me as if my life is "privileged" because im not YOU and your life is sooo much harder than everyone elses

the system will let me die in the streets too buddy, and i am not moved by pity parties or histrionics

if you have an issue, lets talk about YOUR ISSUE

but im not interested in your opinon of my privilege: in fact, youre goingto lose an ally here because once you take the focus off of the actual issues, im not with you any more

youve made me into a villain when i am not one

the irony of stereotyping a group of people in order to battle against social stereotypes is just one more tragic example of how utterly stupid and shallow american culture has become

everyone is privileged in some context
especially americans

safe spaces
taking basic human respect and sensationalizing it tothe point where we proclaim "safe space" seems silly and "special snowflaky" to me

i dont know exactly what a " safe space" would look like but i imagine there would be padding on the walls and some gentle, soothing music over a PA

i think that culture moves forward in a healthy way only when people are free to speak their minds openly

i can agree with rules of courtesy, and if you have an open wound, i dont want to put salt in it (just as i dont like salt put in mine) but thats a case by case basis that we establish as a consequence of open communication, not some general ruleof law where we all have to censor every thought that might potentially offend some theoretical victim somewhere

protecting the general custom free speech is WAAAAYYY more useful and important to society than generally demanding "safe spaces" for people to be comfortable in

if youre an uncomfortable person, youre going to be uncomfortable wherever you go until YOU learn to deal with it

YES THIS.

But I'll add: They've created their terminology and we need to learn to live it, because it's not going away any time soon Part of understanding is learning to speak their language.

Connor L. wrote: Listen and think.

Is this the right direction for Jedi to go?

Jedi in the fiction for example don't even have to be human so... I tend to agree. Division creates division. If you don't want to be racist, don't see colour when you look at someone. If you don't want people to define you by your race, then don't identify and define yourself in those terms. Certainly I think Jedi is an opportunity to avoid that sort of stuff.

But a safe space can be a functional set of rules, to shape the progress of activity and limit particular types of other activity which might be counter-productive to the intention. Shape the activity not the membership, unless it's private of course, then the participants need to be defined by their relationship to that privacy.

But come on, its not kind to us folks over 40 to be going calling yourself ancient at only 30 something... sheeesh