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Motivation: You’re Doing It Wrong
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6 years 2 months ago #316106
by Adder
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Yea its like some sort of behavioural mimicry thing happening, which is a real thing!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mimicry/
Its probably interpreted as successful and then we have a crack at it, and if not getting immediate results get distracted by something else to mimic - just because they are all fleeting moments flashed across our eyes and based on nothing else.
The antidote perhaps is having your own firm 'path' based on a solid foundation of integration of skills, trainings, and strategies!
I made the most progress in my physical training back in the day when I drew up a month long daily training schedule and stuck it on the fridge, it really allowed me to construct my other tasks around that and they all worked together to generate motivation by amping the coherency of efforts ie being on task all the time, just in different integrated ways.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mimicry/
Its probably interpreted as successful and then we have a crack at it, and if not getting immediate results get distracted by something else to mimic - just because they are all fleeting moments flashed across our eyes and based on nothing else.
The antidote perhaps is having your own firm 'path' based on a solid foundation of integration of skills, trainings, and strategies!
I made the most progress in my physical training back in the day when I drew up a month long daily training schedule and stuck it on the fridge, it really allowed me to construct my other tasks around that and they all worked together to generate motivation by amping the coherency of efforts ie being on task all the time, just in different integrated ways.
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6 years 2 months ago #316180
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Akkarin- I heard something slightly different to your point about accountability. There is a possibility of gaining a pyschological reward from telling people of what you *want to do* and feeling as if you've already made progress (when you haven't yet). Having a regular person who you tell what you're doing (notice this is a present ongoing thing and regular) is more likely to work favourably and to keep you accountable (than telling lots of people but not regularly giving feedback on how it's going).
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6 years 2 months ago #316196
by Manu
It's a very good observation. Ramit Sethi, a finance blogger, writes about this when he talks about people venturing into the entrepreneur world. They will purchase a domain, spend hours setting up the website, create a Facebook Fan Page, Twitter and Instagram social presence for their new venture, and they feel all excited and happy and accomplished because of everything they are getting done.
Except that they don't focus on what they actually need: finding paying customers.
He calls this falling for abstractions, which is basically creating a sense of false acomplishment by becoming busy on activities that do not generate value, rather than focus on the ones that do.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
The realist adjusts the sails.
- William Arthur Ward
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Vusuki wrote: Akkarin- I heard something slightly different to your point about accountability. There is a possibility of gaining a pyschological reward from telling people of what you *want to do* and feeling as if you've already made progress (when you haven't yet). Having a regular person who you tell what you're doing (notice this is a present ongoing thing and regular) is more likely to work favourably and to keep you accountable (than telling lots of people but not regularly giving feedback on how it's going).
I thought this was worth pointing out,
It's a very good observation. Ramit Sethi, a finance blogger, writes about this when he talks about people venturing into the entrepreneur world. They will purchase a domain, spend hours setting up the website, create a Facebook Fan Page, Twitter and Instagram social presence for their new venture, and they feel all excited and happy and accomplished because of everything they are getting done.
Except that they don't focus on what they actually need: finding paying customers.
He calls this falling for abstractions, which is basically creating a sense of false acomplishment by becoming busy on activities that do not generate value, rather than focus on the ones that do.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
The realist adjusts the sails.
- William Arthur Ward
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6 years 2 months ago #316258
by Manu
Yes! I love the distinction. I tend to refer to connecting with the why "focus", but it is the same principal you describe.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
The realist adjusts the sails.
- William Arthur Ward
Replied by Manu on topic Motivation: You’re Doing It Wrong
Dano Ori wrote: I think there's a tendency to confuse "motivation" with "enthusiasm": and that's to be expected because the motivational industry is worth a lot of $, but the 'enthusiasm industry' doesn't have the same ring to it.
As I see it, "enthusiasm" is the excitement that gives you the energy to get started on something new. "Motivation" is the personal connection to what you are doing: the 'why' it is a priority for you. "Discipline" is the process of training our mind to examine our motivations each time we're presented with a choice and "commitment" is choosing the option that brings us closer to your priorities every time - even when things get tough.
Yes! I love the distinction. I tend to refer to connecting with the why "focus", but it is the same principal you describe.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
The realist adjusts the sails.
- William Arthur Ward
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