A Question about Love

Ok. I was just wondering, and needed some answers. If sexuality and gender preference is based around and on attraction, does that mean that it is possible for a lesbian girl to fall in love with a straight guy ?? Can one love a straight guy minus sex and attraction ??

Silas Mercury wrote: Ok. I was just wondering, and needed some answers. If sexuality and gender preference is based around and on attraction, does that mean that it is possible for a lesbian girl to fall in love with a straight guy ?? Can one love a straight guy minus sex and attraction ??

Short answer...yes.

Longer answer... emotions are strange things, and the romantic connections we make with others don't necessarily have to involve sex in any way. Asexuals, for example, have perfectly fine romantic relationships without the sexual element. In my own life I have one friend whom I love as I love myself... if she were gone I'd be missing half of myself in a way that would be different if I lost any other friend.
'Love' is a many faceted emotion... there are all kinds of love.... you can have attraction without lust, love without lust... and lust without love. Human beings are complicated!

I believe some people make a distinction between sexual attraction (those you are sexually attracted to) and romantic attraction (those who you 'fall in love' with). For example, a women may consider herself bisexual as she is sexually attracted to both males and females, but hetero-romantic, for she only 'falls in love', or whatever you want to call it, with males. As well, someone may identify as asexual, or having no sexual attraction at all, yet still fall in love, marry, and do all sorts of things with a partner.

I particularly liked the explanation of this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xXAoG8vAyzI

Yes. Gender and sexuality often cannot be assigned or confined to a single label. Human relationships in general, whether romantic, sexual or otherwise, are always rather complicated.

Thank you, ladies, for clearing that up. Thanks for the confidence boost.

Silas Mercury wrote: Ok. I was just wondering, and needed some answers. If sexuality and gender preference is based around and on attraction, does that mean that it is possible for a lesbian girl to fall in love with a straight guy ?? Can one love a straight guy minus sex and attraction ??

Can two different... way different.. hearts fall in love?
Happens all the time!

Good

Thanks for replies ..... fingers crossed now :whistle:

I see well, here's to hoping! Good luck! And may the Living Force be with the on this new journey!

Interesting question. My ex girlfriend is lesbian and she loves me. I'd say it's absolutely possible for that to happen. Love is different from sex. I don't know if my ex is attracted to me...I know she was at one time. She was bisexual when we got together and has since decided she is actually lesbian. Ours is a complicated situation but I know that we love each other even after everything that has happened between us.

It's possible to love someone without sex or sexual attraction. Love is something that transcends sex. It does not require the act of sex to flourish. I know that I will never again have sex with my ex but I still love her and look forward to spending time with her. I don't know that these sorts of situations are common but I believe it is very possible for love to occur despite gender preference.