[Request] How to deal with "hate"

And, how DOES one deal with "hate"?

Both in 'receiving it from others" and "feeling it toward others"?

Thank you in advance for your replies...

Jestor wrote: And, how DOES one deal with "hate"?

Both in 'receiving it from others" and "feeling it toward others"?

Thank you in advance for your replies...

I dont allow myself to recieve hate from others , i strongly believe it is their problem and i will try my utmost not to make it mine , i know there are people who hate me , and hate me even more now they know it does not bother me much , everyone is entitled to their own feelings that they have to deal with, took me a good few years to get to this point , it only hurts when i truly deeply love someone if they hate me , that would suck ..i will cry then, and still be fine.
I dont hate others , i find them stupid maybe or ignorant but i try to see things from their side as much as i can , when i am overcome with feelings of hate i turn to meditation , that helps , it subsides and sometimes even turns into compassion. Funnily i send this meditation to someone today

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqOFZOyIOUU

Growing up and living in this third earth I find hate mostly every corner I turn. I find if I look, the same amount of love. I found the same amount of fear. The more I see, the more it study and find out for my self... the more I find everything is pretty much available at any given time. What keeps me from leaping for joy in excitement or huddle in the corner? The experience of??? Often times its my view. What I see, what my focus is. There's an old saying.... if u put a snake in a box...shake it real good and what do u get? One pissed off snake. However, if jewels and gems are placed it is filled with treasure. Be sure friends what we put in our hearts...effects our focus. How do I deal with hate... I do not allow it. In place I find or make what is want to feel. Can it be passed at people, all day if done properly and for years. Is that my focus. , not even. Our choice in focus some days is our heaven or hell. Much encouragement to those still finding their focus... it is possible to re focus our views and how we see things. It takes good practice. May the Living Force be with you... ps our 3 Tenants say to change ones world around them... these will help.

I have a very hard time feeling hatred for others. I think it comes from the fact that getting hatred hurts me so deeply, as does seeing hatred being perpetrated.

Instead of feeling hatred/ill will towards another, even when I feel I am justified, I try to identify (or if I can't, I assume) that they are in pain. They must be in pain for them to feel the compulsion to pass it on to another. I suppose it's rather than feeling pity instead of hatred. But it's more sympathy than pity.

For example, I wanted to hate my ex. He broke my heart more thoroughly than I ever thought possible. We had been friends for 15 years before we decided to try a relationship and I loved and trusted him to the core of my being. Turns out he was using me, and I even doubted that he even cared for me when we were friends....

BUT I couldn't hate him. Once we were dating, I learned that he was a broken man: alcoholic, abusive childhood, serious abandonment issues. And the reason he left me was because I was encouraging him to confront his problems and seek help. A person like that doesn't deserve hatred, but love and understanding. So while I still hurt deeply from the experience and will never trust him again with my heart, I can't hate him for what he did out of pain and ignorance.

On the other hand, I still struggle with receiving hatred. I have a hard time feeling it myself, so I have difficulty when exposed to it. I tend to forget that not everyone has the same level of insight into the matter as I feel I have, so I don't understand why, if hatred is mutually destructive, anyone would choose it or at least not be aware of it. Not hating has become second nature to me, and I forget that this isn't the case with most people. Receiving or even witnessing acts of hatred bewilder me. I guess I just use the same techniques as above: I assume that the person giving hatred is hurting, and don't blame them or take it personally. It's hard though....

Receiving it from others… I let them vent or be sour or whatever it is they are doing towards me and then I try to help them if I can. Hate is usually caused by some form of misunderstanding or disagreement. I cannot solve all problems, but at least I don’t have to contribute to them.

As to feeling it towards others… I don’t hate anyone. I guess that’s odd. I just don’t hold grudges. Someone may make me angry, but after a few minutes of thinking about it I just let it go. So I guess that’s not really any help to anyone.

Jestor wrote: And, how DOES one deal with "hate"?

Both in 'receiving it from others" and "feeling it toward others"?

Thank you in advance for your replies...

others...I'd like to know why and fix it. if I can't change their opinion I emotionally divorce them and let them self consume.

me...it's usually anger I deal with, can't/don't want to say I hate. I distract myself and after a few days the anger drains away.

Upon reflection I do hate hate.

There is the old saying ...be not overcome with evil but over come evil with good... Its hard to Hate a person trying to love you and bless you right on front of you

I don't think that hate is particularly productive. I don't see the point in hating, personally; it seems like it has very little practical application. So I don't do it. I really just don't feel the drive. It sounds exhausting...
Hatred from others? I try to change their mind first by trying to get to know them a little better and trying to establish some kind of connection.
If it's a dangerous hate, like they're attacking me simply out of hatred, I see nothing wrong with defending myself. I've only had to do that a few times and I prefer not to.
If it's not dangerous and the person refuses to resolve it, I only talk to them only as much as necessary and try to forget about them otherwise.

This video changed almost everything about my interactions with others:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=du035tg-SwY

Maybe it will help you too? It's difficult to hate other people or to interpret people's actions a certain way if you really apply it. You just can't anymore.

There is nothing wrong with feeling hate, towards another or towards self, from another. Its a normal responce just as much as love.
Its acting on those feelings, thats more where you make a choice, do you keep the hate alive or let it go.
Coming from another, I guess the choice is do you try to understand or not, does it matter?
I personally find that if I feel hate towards another I will consider why and sometimes that hate may actually be telling me something I need to listen to, about them and myself.
I dont ignore my emotions I dont always act on them in the moment but I will consider what they are telling me.