My return - Discuss about handling trouble in social life

I wasn't here for nearly 2 months now. I'm so sorry for that!
Sometimes I'm drowning in self-doubt and lack of discipline. But I always tried to follow the path of Jediism.
I had a hard time with working and some troubles in social life.
Please excuse my absence and be happy I'm here again and start to continue my Initiate Programme as soon as possible.

I would like to take this opportunity to discuss about troubles in social life.
How do you handle the situation, when your best friend leaves you for his girlfriend?

Throughout life friends and loved ones will come and go. It can be difficult, but it is part of the human experience. It is okay to feel hurt, betrayed or even jealous and you should allow yourself to feel these emotions, but then you should let them pass. Emotion, yet peace. We can not allow the decisions of others to dictate our own Paths.

Right now your friend has his own path to walk and it is not the same as yours. I'm sure you will miss the companionship, but there are others who will share your path for now. Someday he may come back, or perhaps he won't, but if he does you should be ready to welcome him kindly. You will each have new stories to share and your friendship may grow even stronger.

For the time being, focus on your journey and use this time to better yourself. Maybe this break from your friendship is what you need to allow some reflection? The Force works in many ways and sometimes we just need to let go of what we think we know and just have a little faith.

I believe Senan said that beautifully. Also, never forget, it could always be worse... I once had a best friend who left me for my fiance! (She also left me for him). It turned out that I am better off now than I was with either of them. With them out of my life, I've been able to grow tremendously and though there were things I learned about myself in those relationships, I found that their path was nowhere near where I wanted to go in my life, so now they are on their own path (wherever that is) and I am on mine. Like Senan has said, faith can go a long ways. I had faith that the Force (or whatever one may call it) would guide me to a better place, and it has

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i dont know if this applies to you or not, but MAYBE, this MIGHT be a great opportunity for you

i mean, what would have to happen for this to turn out to be a great opportunity for you?

heres something: imagine yourself in the future...

come up with a picture of the best possible YOU that could happen if you made all the right decisions, and took care of yourself, and the world favored you enough to let you develop into that person, that bets possible YOU, without sinking your battleship so to speak

what does that person look like?

what does he do with his time?

what did it take to get from right now, to him?

what does that future require?

or from another angle, what are you passionate about?

if you had all the time and money and access that you needed to learn and get good at anything that you wanted, what would you learn to do?
what do you really want to be great at?

do you know the answer to that?
if not, maybe now is the time to figure it out

if so, maybe, do more of THAT ?

Khaos wrote: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTuElM6T50w

I'm sorry to hear things aren't going the way you'd like them to be. I also can't give advice that is guaranteed to be relevant to your specific situation, but since I study relationships academically, I have a few thoughts.

The first is that we all have different kinds of social needs that are filled by different relationships. It sounds like your best friend is trying to fill a romantic drive that isn't otherwise satisfied. This doesn't mean he has stopped caring about your friendship, but I understand that it may feel that way, and that he may also be spending much less time with you--maybe none at all. This kind of change often occurs when a new relationship forms, and they can be temporary or permanent. Whatever the case is, it may help you to try to imagine your best friend's perspective; my guess is that the relationship is contributing to his happiness. I further suspect that, generally speaking, your friend's happiness contributes to your happiness as well.

In practical terms, it may also be helpful to you to try starting a conversation with him about his new relationship, making sure you are supportive when he talks about it. Discussing it may help you both feel better about the changes the romantic relationship has brought about in your friendship. You may also consider inviting him and his girlfriend to do something with you. If you get to know her and get used to them as a couple, you may find you don't feel the relationship competes with your friendship.

Sometimes I also see cases where one friend wants to be more than friends. These can be very complicated and heartbreaking situations. I don't know if that's at all what you're going through. If so, I certainly empathize, as in addition to seeing others in these roles, I have been on both ends of that situation, and neither of them is fun. In cases like this, adjustment can be even more difficult, but I think the best way to move forward is to be able to be mindful of your feelings and separate your feelings of friendship from your feelings of romantic attraction over time.

Again, it's difficult to say whether any of my comments are relevant to your specific circumstances (so I hope none of them give offense), but I'll keep my fingers crossed you find peace and happiness in the situation.

I try to remember that people come and go. They are in our lives for a time with something to teach us... when they go it was because we'd learned all we could from each other at that point. If your best friend comes back someday, there was more to learn from each other

There are lots of other folks to befriend as well, lots of other people to exchange ideas with. And you become much more well-rounded, the more people you talk to, which is awesome.

And welcome back! I don't think we've met yet. Hello!

As I said to a friend yesterday, just try to remember that 'change is more of a beginning then an end'!!! The options opening up and far more numerous then the ones closing by this person leaving.

Now yes, that alone can be a bit confronting as its easy to have friendship's as safe harbors... reliable, predictable avenues for interaction and activity - but a bit of reminding oneself that better things are out there waiting to be discovered can counter that a bit. So perhaps try and generate excitement for the unknown. It might have to be a bit artificial for awhile to counter the emotional sensation of loss, but opportunity does exist in the world.

I'm terribly anti-social so I had to really stop defining myself how (I felt) others saw me, and instead be my own person for my own reasons. People are always looking for other people whom they get along with, so I'd just say be yourself, focus on being your best self for yourself and let the right people find you for those right reasons of compatibility rather then anything else.