Feel superior

I don't post here much, but I have been working on my own journey for a while now.
After so many two steps forward, one (sometimes two) steps back. I finally feel like I am starting to get where I would like to be.
I discovered something though. After a situation this week where finally I feel like I did the Jedi thing, completely and fully, I feel superior. Which isn't what I expected.
How do you personally find a balance between doing what you feel right and feeling superior. I really don't want a superiority complex.

Thank you.

Sometimes people say you have to love yourself before you can properly love others, and I'd say its ok to reward yourself on progress, sometimes even giving oneself permission to focus on it a bit - so I guess it might be about restraining the negative components of that feeling while reinforcing the healthy ones (if possible).

think back to a moment when you said something really stupid, or jumped to a conclusion that was completely out of place, or fumbled like a moron in some way in front of others.
some moment when you tried to appear smooth and intelligent and came out looking like a clown or when you were 100% sure about something and ended up being 100% wrong,or believed someone or something simply because you WANTED it to be true and found out that,of course,it wasnt

then ask yourself if you really think there is anything at all you can do to guarantee that youll never make any of those mistakes again

Figment wrote: I don't post here much, but I have been working on my own journey for a while now.
After so many two steps forward, one (sometimes two) steps back. I finally feel like I am starting to get where I would like to be.
I discovered something though. After a situation this week where finally I feel like I did the Jedi thing, completely and fully, I feel superior. Which isn't what I expected.
How do you personally find a balance between doing what you feel right and feeling superior. I really don't want a superiority complex.

Thank you.

I don't feel like you have to focus on something that you couldn't be proud of in order to balance out feeling a little 'too good' about yourself ... just put it in perspective :

Think briefly of all the people who have done extremely remarkable things in History. Many of them are dead now and they are just as dead as others who led perfectly good ordinary, unremarkable lives. In other words, glory is pretty fleeting ...

Probably one of the best tools to keep your pride in check is your model of the "two steps" there ... not insomuch as making advancement or regression, but if you were to stand up, take two or three steps (very well-taken steps !) then look back, where is the first step you took ? Such is the value of our past actions for the present.

Finally, there is no harm in knowing that you did something well. The only harm is when we base our sense of Self, the elusive "I" on the recognition for having done something. That is when we cross the line from a reasonable contentment with oneself (pride) into conceit. We never "get there" to being a great Jedi ... we can only practice/train to become more apt at doing the right thing in the moment.

I think we feel superior is sometimes good, and sometimes we feel a little depressed. I'm generally the opposite you, I get depressed sometimes; I do not let the feeling becomes greater than the mind or myself, or it will eventually swallow me. In my case I try to motivate me when I'm sad, if I had that feeling of greatness, seek to exercise my humility

Pride isn't a bad thing in moderation. I think it's more about how you act towards other people.

When I think of superiority complexes, what comes to mind are those people who are so full of themselves they look down on other people. Some can back up their swagger, others are full of hot air. I find both unapproachable.

But pride in myself and what I've accomplished so far is a good thing. Take it from someone who hardly had a scrap of self esteem until recently And although I'm proud of who I am and what I've done, I know I still have more to work on, more to learn. Between knowing I know a lot, but that's still not even a drop in the bucket, and compassion for my fellow man, no matter how far along his path he is, temper my pride and (usually!) keep me from ranging out of confidence and into arrogance.

something else is to spend some time actually talking with someone - its not as easy to feel like the other person isnt good enough for your respect when you can judge them from a distance and say "she talks like this" or "he must be thinking that"

missteps in communication and differences in personality type and demeanor can lead to resentments and misunderstandings that linger and become fixed-in-stone conclusions - not only can we all be wrong about each other but people are capable of changing if they choose to - would you be able to see passed your own judgements if they did?

i would suggest to actually dialogue personally with someone for a bit and find out where theyre coming from and what theyve experienced to put them into the frame of reference they have, anything less and whatever you think you understand about the other person is probably shallow - people are a lot more than they appear