Describe the Individual Immediately Posted Above You

Not really. But rather this is about a different type of question (though, given the way this community goes I'm okay with you actually following the line in the subject title, lol)- what would you think of a person that posed such a question from the get go? Would you think them to be insecure about themselves? Why?

And would you want to know? Would you post in the thread telling people how you felt about them, or would you be worried about what someone had to say about you? Would you avoid engaging the conversation because you find it superfluous?

Basically- what would you think of a thread that posed this question? What things would unwind in your mind with regards to yourself and the people that respond in it?

And then, on some level, do you even know how you would describe a personality you may really only know online?

What I think is we should have a "Talk rubbish about the individual who immediately posted above you" thread.

Alethea Thompson wrote: Not really. But rather this is about a different type of question (though, given the way this community goes I'm okay with you actually following the line in the subject title, lol)- what would you think of a person that posed such a question from the get go? Would you think them to be insecure about themselves? Why?

And would you want to know? Would you post in the thread telling people how you felt about them, or would you be worried about what someone had to say about you? Would you avoid engaging the conversation because you find it superfluous?

Basically- what would you think of a thread that posed this question? What things would unwind in your mind with regards to yourself and the people that respond in it?

And then, on some level, do you even know how you would describe a personality you may really only know online?

No, I didn't think that at all. I thought this was actually going to be some kind of game. :lol:

Knowing us, this would somehow turn into a debate about which flavor of ice cream is better, chocolate or vanilla. :lol:

In all seriousness, it sounds intriguing, however I think it would be inevitable that someone will end up becoming offended, about someone's personal opinions, founded or unfounded. I think if that does happen there would be a likeliness that things might end up getting heated very fast, very quickly

I think it's interesting to know what people think of you, as long as you kept in mind that there opinion is based on what you have posted here.. Which really is just a very small percentage of who you are.
But it would end up in arguments when we disagreed or people would be so careful with what they said it would be worthless.

About this sort of thread I'd say it would descend into chaos and name calling very quickly.

And I like mint ice cream Raven Falton.. How could you leave out that flavour? Idk

Hmmm... uhm... er, uh... I'm gonna go wiiiiiiith... Elizabethan? lol

elizabeth wrote:
About this sort of thread I'd say it would descend into chaos and name calling very quickly.

Youre right, we should preempt it!

um...yeah. Im out its way too late at night to come up with anything more original than Poopy head

Also french vanilla for the win.

On topic though, a friend on mine recently had to do an assignment at university that asked for anonymous feedback on peoples perceptions of her. The results were interesting, but nothing unexpected. The truth is that people think about us far less than we realise.

And in terms of wanting to know what people think.... sometimes its a valuable exercise. Ive just been doing some work with the quadrants of self knowledge and its a requirement for widening the known aspects. But I think that unless its for a specific grown related exercise, more often than not its a seeking of validation and is best left alone.


also, unsolicited feedback on a persons character is rude unless its within the context of the conversation.

To answer my own question:

I wouldn't really be afraid to post a response if the person was someone I knew enough about to post. Though, I would question why someone started such a thread. On some level, I think I would want to be the first one in to ask the OP what sparked the concept. Innately, my first response is to think they are insecure about themselves- but given the numerous times I've seen masters have their students ask "how do you perceive me", I would also consider this to be reason the question was asked.

So then the question is- would I post multiple times on people? Or would I just settle with commenting once? That's an interesting question to ask as well. Because it begs the question- am I commenting on others because I am judgmental (used in this context as a neutral term)? Or am I doing so to get a better assessment of myself?

For me, I recognize that the reason I would probably respond multiple times, is because I would be curious to find out the answer to "how do others perceive me?". It's a question I do constantly wonder about. After using Miles as a sounding board a couple of nights ago I realize that this question is something I keep wondering about, and am just never really straight forward to ask others what it is that people consider of me. But I never ask, not because I'm worried what others will have to say, but rather I'm worried that people will just tell me what I want to hear. Which isn't about pleasing me, but rather because they are conditioned by society to not say it. And above all, I think that annoys me more than if someone had something negative to say about me.

But then, it becomes a circular pattern. Is that understanding, thinking that maybe someone isn't saying something negative to me because of something like their own belief there may be because of some sort of fear of my reaction, because I'm just my worst critic? Or is it because it truly is a warranted paranoia?

Vanilla, but I oppose cruelty to the French, so no French in my Vanilla ice cream please.

The question seemed initially superfluous, but I think you've hit on a very deep potential question for what we really know about the people around us. Never mind the people on this board we've never met, what do we know about ourselves and others closest to us...

It would likely be a very interesting exercise, with some potentially ego-busting results with people who should know you.

For instance if I were to try and assess who is A.T., based on what I see on the Forums, it would take me some significant research and I'm not sure what that analysis would benefit you or I....

Interesting, no one is stepping up? Are we afraid? Do we not want to look into the mirror that talks back? It's a risk isn't it?

I'm game. I'm in. :woohoo:

Describe me...

I'll not post or comment if it has anything to do with me.

I'd be afraid to post, but not because I didn't want someone to say what they thought of me, because there are very few people here that I think that I know well enough to give a good assessment of. A person who annoys me here might, in real life, be a potential best friend and vice-versa.

In middle school I had a class that did something like this. We all got out a piece of paper and put our name on the top. That paper was then passed around and you had to write something about that person (since it was school it was supposed to be nice, but it was also anonymous). When every one had written on everyone's then you got your paper back.

Pistachio frozen yogurt FOR THE WIN! :laugh: