Keeping Calm and Centered

I'm glad you liked the visual it's helped me quite a bit and it's kind of fun too haha.

I like the idea of making a list. Something that you maybe can add if you want to is write them on index cards, and write how they make you feel and something positive like maybe how you think you should resolve the feelings. Have some fun and use different colors for each? But when you feel you're done with each, destroy them. Shred them, burn them, cut them up into little pieces, soak them in water until they fall apart, but get rid of them in some permanent way. Put some finality to it and let it all go. I've never thought about writing things down like that list before but I like the idea of tangible symbolism to help me (...and it's just fun burning things!! :whistle: )

Kamizu wrote: (...and it's just fun burning things!! :whistle: )

Burning was definitely the last step in the plan for this list. I just have to figure out where to do it so I won't destroy a few city blocks. Colorado has been a little sensitive when it comes to fires lately. :pinch: Haha.

And Wescli, I think I'm going to have to frame that post and keep it on my desk. Thank you very much for that. I think it's almost exactly what I've been looking for.

Lots of annoying things irritate the hell out of me....when it gets to be too much I take a deep breath in through my nose and exhale slowly out my mouth and utter the word fah kit....mentally I attach the irritations to the word say they depart as the breath departs...

Talariq wrote:

Kamizu wrote: (...and it's just fun burning things!! :whistle: )

Burning was definitely the last step in the plan for this list. I just have to figure out where to do it so I won't destroy a few city blocks. Colorado has been a little sensitive when it comes to fires lately. :pinch: Haha..

LOL what are you trying to do? Set up a bonfire?!

You can get a smudge bowl, a mini cauldron, or even a ceramic planting pot and just stick a tealight candle or three in it Anything that'll contain the candle and ash and a bit of heat would work as long as you're using smaller pieces of paper and not burning a novel at a time. :lol:

And if this is something that floats your boat, you can do a kind of ceremonial setup if you need or want that kind of meaning. I have a ceramic smudge bowl with of sand from places I've lived. I stick a piece of charcoal in it that's meant for loose incense/resins. I'll use either Dragonsblood resin, or usually sage by itself or with lavender. I've only burned paper like this once and it smoldered into ash instead of flame but it worked for me and it smelled good too . And you can always light the paper and set it on top of the coal and incense and let it burn away. Or you can burn stick or cone incense stuck into the sand, set the paper on the sand and light it, avoiding the charcoal all together.

Talariq wrote: Lately I've been finding myself getting upset to the point of rage over the tiniest annoyances. I have tried not to let it effect anyone else, but I know all it is doing is adding undue stress to my life. Is there anything that you all do to keep yourself calm throughout the day to help prevent the little things getting to you, rather than simply catching yourself already getting ready to punch a wall, go off on someone who may not deserve it, or some other silliness?

It's a tough situation and it usually happens to me when I'm not getting what I want or fast enough, frustration or pressure I have no control over? Sometimes I just don't handle fools well when I should be compassionate.

What situations upset you?

Kamizu wrote: LOL what are you trying to do? Set up a bonfire?!

Haha. No, nothing so fun. I just don't have a lot of options like that. May have to stick to my sink. :dry:

RyuJin wrote: when it gets to be too much I take a deep breath in through my nose and exhale slowly out my mouth and utter the word fah kit....

That took me a second, but I think you just made my day. :laugh:

Rickie The Grey wrote: What situations upset you?

Lately it's been just normal work stresses. Dealing with difficult customers, dealing with my agents, things like that. Although applying a few of the suggestions people have given in this thread has been an immense help.