This sounds to me like denial and self-deception. When something dreadful happens to me or
someone close to me - accident, illness, pain of some kind or death - I can pretend that it isn't bad, but the fact remains that it is bad, so why deny it?
You are not pretending anything. You are allowing it to be as it is, that's all. This "allowing to be" takes you beyond the mind with its resistance patterns that create the positive-negative
polarities. It is an essential aspect of forgiveness. Forgiveness of the present is even more
important than forgiveness of the past. If you forgive every moment - allow it to be as it is -
then there will be no accumulation of resentment that needs to be forgiven at some later time.
Remember that we are not talking about happiness here. For example, when a loved one
has just died, or you feel your own death approaching, you cannot be happy. It is impossible.
But you can be at peace. There may be sadness and tears, but provided that you have
relinquished resistance, underneath the sadness you will feel a deep serenity, a stillness, a
sacred presence. This is the emanation of Being, this is inner peace, the good that has no
opposite.
What if it is a situation that I can do something about? How can I allow it to be and change it at the same time?
Do what you have to do. In the meantime, accept what is. Since mind and resistance are
synonymous, acceptance immediately frees you from mind dominance and thus reconnects
you with Being. As a result, the usual ego motivations for "doing" - fear, greed, control,
defending or feeding the false sense of self - will cease to operate. An intelligence much
greater than the mind is now in charge, and so a different quality of consciousness will flow
into your doing.
"Accept whatever comes to you woven in the pattern of your destiny, for what could
more aptly fit your needs?" This was written 2,000 years ago by Marcus Aurelius, one of those
exceedingly rare humans who possessed worldly power as well as wisdom.
It seems that most people need to experience a great deal of suffering before they will
relinquish resistance and accept - before they will forgive. As soon as they do, one of the
greatest miracles happens: the awakening of Being-consciousness through what appears as
evil, the transmutation of suffering into inner peace. The ultimate effect of all the evil and
suffering in the world is that it will force humans into realizing who they are beyond name
and form. Thus, what we perceive as evil from our limited perspective is actually part of the
higher good that has no opposite. This, however, does not become true for you except
through forgiveness. Until that happens, evil has not been redeemed and therefore remains
evil.
Through forgiveness, which essentially means recognizing the insubstantiality of the past
and allowing the present moment to be as it is, the miracle of transformation happens not
only within but also without. A silent space of intense presence arises both in you and around
you. Whoever or whatever enters that field of consciousness will be affected by it, sometimes
visibly and immediately, sometimes at deeper levels with visible changes appearing at a later
time. You dissolve discord, heal pain, dispel unconsciousness - without doing anything -
simply by being and holding that frequency of intense presence.
