What would you do.

People always say i would do this or that. I have put up a few questions like this before but I would like to have some other people ask some. (ex would you shoot some one who broke in to your house.) Think hard about this the more time we put in to this the more fun we can have with it. So with that said I think i will go first. Would you lie to keep from hurting some one.

Would I lie to keep from hurting some one.... No I think it may hurt them more if they found out you knew what was going on.. again it would have to depend on what we are talking about but I feel I would have to tell them the truth.

I would try very hard not to do that.

I would put my linguistics skills to use turning the truth (or as much as I have of it) in such a way as to minimise the injury...

I'd rather not shoot someone (not that I even own a gun) there are other ways. Simply pointing the weapon toward them might be enough to give them a scare and they'd surely second guess the decision they just made. Id only ever use lethal force and violence in defense of myself or others and only as a last resort I'd like to think I could talk them out of any further trespass, but I'm not the most composed during emergencies. Truth is I have no clue what I'd do because I've never been in that situation before.

i was thinking about the shoot someone part. i would try my best not to have to, and even then just try for a wounding shot (or shoot the gun out of their hand movie style, like thats possible). if i am still concealed, i would just rack my shotgun. there is nothing more terrifying to a home invader than that very distinctive sound at close range. that and a loud, mean dog.

some of you have not been around to see the old post that i was talking about with the shooting thing... but let say you have a friend and you know some thing about them let say their wife/husband was cheating on them and you know it to be true, could you tell them or would you lie and say you knew nothing. This is what I was asking about some moral issue that you knew about could you lie to some one or would you try to tell them with out hurting them. there are other things that could fall in to this as could you see a crime and just do nothing or would you jump in and help.

I haven't seen the old post but if someone were breaking in I would probably start hitting them with my staff since I don't own a gun. and if there is a crime going on I would try to help the victims anyway possible

Slydogstags wrote: some of you have not been around to see the old post that i was talking about with the shooting thing... but let say you have a friend and you know some thing about them let say their wife/husband was cheating on them and you know it to be true, could you tell them or would you lie and say you knew nothing. This is what I was asking about some moral issue that you knew about could you lie to some one or would you try to tell them with out hurting them. there are other things that could fall in to this as could you see a crime and just do nothing or would you jump in and help.

I would tell the person who was cheating that I knew they were cheating. I would tell them that if I was asked, I wouldn't lie about it and give them an opportunity to do it themselves.
I have told someone that their S/O was cheating on them once and it did no good for the relationship with me and the person I told until after the relationship was over. I would wait until asked, and, like I said, would tell the cheater that I knew.

Let us use an analogy.

Having a part of Truth : for instance, knowing that someone's wife/husband was (cheating ?) having an extra-marital, or just a liaison ... is like having a hammer.

Honesty is an application of the Truth (no, telling the Truth and being Honest are not the same) ... say using the hammer.

Question : how do we use the tools we have ? Constructively (to build something) or destructively (to destroy something) ?

Feel free to explore unseen dimensions ................

@alex

I think in the case you present, approaching the cheater as someone who cares about them and their family may be the best initial approach. Then step up to informing the spouse in the hopes of reconciliation. Ultimately though, it will come down to several factors. One being the individuals capacity to forgive. Another, their ability to trust. A third, the couples communication skills, and more additional factors than I can anticipate.

The reason I choose this approach is having been on the outside looking in on a relationship with this factor.It hurt and damaged both individuals extensively even before the cat was out of the bag. There is more on that I could share, but it is not my place or my story.

As much as I would like to tell and have in the past told a friend that they were being cheated on, my experience shows simply, it's not my path and I have no right to enter into someone else's. I end up being the fall guy for the troubles that precede.

We are all on a path and if we are to confront another for indiscretions, be prepared to accept the blame for the outcome. Although we feel that we are helping or protecting, our "outside" influence alters the path of those we would try to help.

It is most difficult to watch as a friend cheats or gets cheated on. Our tendency is to want to help. We think we are helping, but we are adding "spin" to a already delicate situation.

A case in point: My father wanted me to talk to my brother about his impending divorce. I was suppose to tell him that I would support him and tell him what his wife had said. Having experience in being the middle man, I refused and told my father that it was my brothers problem and I was not going to get in between.

My brother was completely wrong in this situation because he was cheating on his wife. Of course the whole thing became my fault because somehow I can teleport 1200 miles to Florida while at work in Illinois to put pictures of my brother and the mistress in my sister-in-laws hands.

I can not tell you how difficult it is to stand by when you know something is wrong. But in the matters of relationships, you have no place in anothers business. That is unless harm will come to them such as spousal abuse.

No, but my response would be greatly dependent upon the situation.

"Is my boyfriend cheating on me?"
(REGARDLESS OF IF I KNOW THE ANSWER OR WHAT THE ANSWER IS) "If you are really this worried about it, you should talk with him. If you can't trust the man, he may not be the right person for you."

"Does this make me look fat?"
(If I think it does) "I don't believe it looks all that great on you."
(If not, but I don't like it) "Do you like how it looks? Is it 'you'"?
(If not and I DO like it) "Looks great!" (and then talk about why I like it)

"Do you think that so-and-so is using me?"
(Answer is yes) "Yes"
(Answer is no) "Why do you think they are?"

etc. Everything is METT-TC

I think I would try to help my friend discover the truth on their own or make it known to the cheater that I knew. If the cheater didn't confess I probably would tell my friend. As for the intruder, if they're in my home to do me or my family physical harm then I'd shoot to kill...if they didn't vacate that is.