Here's my take on the subject of various methods of dress.
If you dress like trash, you're going to get treated like trash. Your outward appearance is your first impression. Dressing in a socially appropriate manner helps to show non-telepaths that you 'fit in', that you're a part of the same society as them and therefore not a threat. Unfortunately, some of this is gender based. A boy who has his waistband slung under his butt is not going to be getting stares from girls(in my experience, most girls don't find that attractive at all). However, a girl in a push-up bra, tight short shirt, and very short bottoms is going to get wolf whistled at and approached by strangers. The reason for this is simple. The boy, with his pants around his ankles, is presenting himself as 'thug', an urban translation of masculine. A boy will often dress that way to fit in with and impress his peers, despite how inconvenient it is or how silly he looks. A girl is dressing that way in order to attract attention, usually from boys. A girl who dresses with her breasts popping out of her shirt isn't doing it to show her friends how smart and interesting she is. She's doing it to present herself as a sex object, something to be desired. As a side note, often girls will get very bitchy and aggressive towards other girls who are peacocking in this way around boys that they've claimed in some way or another.
With that being said, is it right to judge someone on their method of dress? I have lots of friends, and they all dress differently. Some of them do dress in ways that I would never dream of, because I've been raised to dress conservatively(however I was always allowed to do whatever I wanted to my hair!). The way someone dresses is often a good way to see how they want you to see them, and that can give you at least marginal insight into their mindset. However, judging someone on their method of dress is similar to judging someone on the first thirty seconds you've interacted with them. You're just getting a snapshot of their whole being, and if you decide you don't want to be a part of their life, you can't really tell what you're missing. Unless someone is acting in a way that is hostile or otherwise horribly inappropriate(IE assaulting someone, slinging hate speech at passing minorities), I don't see why I, personally, would take someone's method of dress and extrapolate from that their entire personality.
Social appropriateness is a different matter entirely. Appropriate dress for various occasions is rooted in tradition, and generally the majority vote will decide whether or not something is appropriate. For instance, when I see a girl walking around campus in a short, skintight dress, I see people both compliment her fashion sense or alternatively ridicule her once she's out of earshot. It's all relative. What's important to remember is that the way someone chooses to present themselves is only a fraction of the person underneath, and that person deserves a chance to change your life for the better. You just have to look past the clothes, and let them.
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