The Art of Disagreement

It's an interesting idea to see disagreement as an expression between people (art) rather than a stressful negative 'must-avoid' experience. Thanks Pro,

It also reminds me of something i read recently about someone who refuses to

"allow himself to hold an opinion unless he knows the other side of the argument better than that side does."

I like that expression of *holding* an opinion, and that one must be gentle with their ideas, especially when they realize that they do not understand the other persons point of view. In what context is this person right? How has his or her experience shaped his thought? Can I understand them? I think these might be good questions to ponder sometimes when in a confrontation... And whilst I say confrontation- perhaps that's a habitual way of thinking about it- disagreement is a confrontation (!) - I'd rather say they're some good questions to ponder when making art with another person,

Here's the article if you've a couple of minutes: https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/2016/05/eager-to-be-wrong/

Enjoy your day,

I found these 8 guidelines very helpfull , in my job as a Social Worker i work with and for some difficult to follow people sometimes , we have fierce discussions where standing my ground sometimes is needed to get the right help for my clients , the conflicting interests and views are hard and interesting at the same time , i dont have time to be disgruntled , ...

#1 Speak with civility. It doesn't undermine honesty.
No matter how estranging the subject or how horrible someone else’s opinion , stay civil , it does not hurt to stay kind , in fact its very healing.
#2 State your view about the subject not about the person.
It comes across as antagonistic and closed-minded. The subject should be addressed not the person behind it , kill the message , not the messenger
#3 State opinion as opinion, not as fact.
Your opinion is just your opinion , even if you can back it up with what you consider facts , its still an opinion.
#4 State your inference as an inference, not as the speaker's intention.
State that you interfere , don’t write “I think Jack wants to say “ why do you to tell me what Jack wants to say , Jack is a big boy , he can defend himself
#5 Avoid absolutes about other people.
“You always say this and that …” Nope
#6 Communicate to learn not to win.
I have been unfriended for not budging , but I don’t avoid conflict because I want to learn from you all , don’t aim to win , aim to grow , we all get emotional about something and get annoyed, but we all still have to work together , we don’t have to be friends to do that , we need to get along …we are in this together
#7 Get out of your comfort zone.
There are many differences in upbringing and backgrounds in this Temple and irl , get to know each other , respect other people and indeed , step over your own fence once in a while , you might like what you find
#8 Think yes not no.
When you try to find the common denominator of ideas, you will listen better, show respect for others' ideas, and communicate your views with both clarity and respect. You can be honest without being rude