Good Intentions

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09 Sep 2015 01:24 #202308 by Spiral
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rugadd wrote: Cabur Senaar hit on something I want to ask a question about...

Can intentions be considered good with out a mentality of self improvement?

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What good are good intentions when we still hurt other people regardless?



When I was in college I broke up with a girlfriend because I realized I did not love her and was not willing to pretend otherwise. It was hard because I did hurt her, but remaining in the relationship would have been worse in the long run. I was hurt by it as well since I DID care about her, just not to that level of commitment. Was this "good" or "right" even though I caused pain?

I don't really know the answer but I DID feel better when she stopped by my apartment about a year later and told me she forgave me and that she was super happy in her current relationship. Maybe it was 80% good and 20% not? Is that a valid assertion?

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09 Sep 2015 01:30 #202309 by MrBruno
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I will quote here a game that is called BlazBlue. "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." I took that phrase to me because usually I try to fix things and help people, but overall I screw it up, but unintentionally, so I try to watch what I do. I think if you really want to help and people and something goes wrong, it happens to and may even be remediable, but if we do it in an irresponsible or abusive manner, then it becomes something disturbing. By helping others I try to be impartial and responsible with my actions

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09 Sep 2015 11:57 #202336 by Streen
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Kamizu wrote: are we responsible for the results of our actions or only the intent of them?


Any answer I come up with for this question seems to be a grand generalization. The thing is, every situation is different. Intentions and responsibilities get mixed around, seemingly random events occur, and eventually we're talking about fate or destiny.

Are we responsible for anything? Doesn't everything happen for a reason, regardless of who is responsible or what our intention was?

Ultimately, I find that there are no answers for this sort of thing, only questions. And questions are far more useful than answers.

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09 Sep 2015 13:20 #202340 by Phortis Nespin
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God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

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09 Sep 2015 20:10 #202367 by Trisskar
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A better question would be. Do you really know what the other person intended or are you (general) just assuming you know?

Everything I do is with the intentions of doing and being good. And yet I get alot of wild assumptions about me and my Intentions, folks putting their own intention into my own....thus causing quite a blunder.

Like Streen stated...It depends on the situation.
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09 Sep 2015 20:35 #202371 by Goken
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Kamizu wrote: ...are we responsible for the results of our actions or only the intent of them?


The short answer is Yes.

The Dude wrote: ...if you shoot a gun intending just to be excited by the loud noise and happen to hit an innocent bystander, you're still responsible for hurting that person! So I can't see how you would put much stock into the idea that intentions alone matter.


This is a great, albeit drastic, example. Was the intent harm, no. Was the result harm, yes. We should take both into consideration.

When you really break it down we can see it as a transaction involving two people, the person hurt and the one that hurt them. We also have two aspects of the transaction, the intent and the result. At the time of the transaction the intent is in the mind of the person who hurt the other and the result is more immediately in the mind of the person who was hurt. This is where a lot of people tend to stop.

After the fact the person who was hurt should take a look at the other person's intentions. Did they mean to hurt me? Was this an accident? The person that hurt the other should also look at the results. Did I hurt them? Could I have avoided that? Both sides should examine both aspects.

What happens after that is very much dependent on the actual situation. In The Dude's example the one who pulled the trigger should probably go to jail or at the very least have some sort of probation and not be allowed to own a firearm. That wasn't just an accident, it was negligence. If the issue was an accidental insult than the insulting party can learn not to do it again and the insulted party can forgive (though probably not forget).

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10 Sep 2015 17:32 #202463 by Kit
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Phortis Nespin wrote: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.


Oh I'm not trying to change her. I know better lol never will happen, not worth the effort. Just checking my compass.

Kitsu Tails wrote: A better question would be. Do you really know what the other person intended or are you (general) just assuming you know?

Everything I do is with the intentions of doing and being good. And yet I get alot of wild assumptions about me and my Intentions, folks putting their own intention into my own....thus causing quite a blunder.

Like Streen stated...It depends on the situation.


Nope, no assumptions on this one *long sigh* would be easier to deal with if it was me who had to change my view. To give a little more detail on this person, many short stories combined, she does "favors" without realizing what the person getting these wants or needs, assuming that she knows what's best (even after asking what the person needs, she'll still do whatever she wants to). And this nearly always causes me more work, stress, property damage, or money. When I talk to her about it, she states that it was "from the heart" and even a few times I got: "If you can't feel that, it's your own fault." She refuses to take responsibility for what results from her actions and won't help fix what she's done or even stay out of future events. Just repeating that she was trying to do a good thing or she meant well as if that was all she was responsible for.

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10 Sep 2015 20:46 #202483 by Silvermane
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Wizards Rule #2: The greatest harm can come from the best of intentions.

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10 Sep 2015 20:47 #202484 by Trisskar
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Ah. See....That sounds like Good Intentions for personal goals rather then simply...Good intention.

Moment you apply "You" into the intention...it is no longer "Good" it's just you trying to be good for your own self esteem.

Actually....there was a great my little pony episode that sort of touches to the heart of this XD haha Lets see...it was.....Season 5 episode 3

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10 Sep 2015 21:15 #202486 by Jamie Stick
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I don't really think intentions justify actions or the results of those actions. However, that doesn't make them worthless. I might be more able to appreciate why an action was taken if I understand a person's intentions. I think it can even make it easier to forgive someone's mistakes if their intention's were known to be good. That doesn't absolve a person from responsibility for their actions, but it can bring peace to one's soul.

I'm going to use Kim Davis as an example. I wouldn't call her intentions good, but knowing her intentions helps me understand why she would perform such a vile act in defiance of the SCOTUS' ruling. It helps me see her as someone who is truly deluded by ideology that she would do anything, no matter how reprehensible, because she's been taught to obey her dogmatic brand of interpreted teachings.

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