Is apologizing weakness?

One quote I've heard often is "Never apologize. It's a sign of weakness."

Thoughts?

All things in moderation.

I think it goes deeper than the act of Apologizing. If you find yourself Apologizing frequently and/or often...Then perhaps there is a weakness to explore and improve upon that lead to the need to apologize.

To me apologizing is on a spectrum based on how often a person apologizes.

At one end we have the person who apologizes all the time even for stuff that wasn't their fault or when they weren't wrong. That end of the spectrum is weakness. That person doesn't have the strength to stand by what they say or do. On the other end is the person who never apologizes for anything. This, I believe, is also weakness. This is an inability to recognize that something may be their fault or that they may have been wrong. That is weak. Then there's the middle. A person who apologizes when they were wrong and/or at fault and the apology will aid the situation but see's no need to apologize for things that weren't their fault.

I think the middle shows the most strength as it takes a strong person to admit their faults but it takes an equally strong person to stand up for themselves. So apologizing sometimes but not always is a sign of strength, in my opinion.

Goken wrote: On quote I've heard often is "Never apologize. It's a sign of weakness."

Thoughts?

I don't see how this can be considered a weakness? You've made a mistake, you apologize. Your human.

O course if you expect perfection then a mistake would look like a weakness but expecting perfection is unrealistic.

To think/believe you never make a mistake is delusional.

A perfect person may be offended by this.

Depends on the reason you're apologizing. What good does apologizing really do? It helps console the affected party, and quells the consciousness of the affecter.

That's just in the saying of "I'm Sorry".

If you really want to change the state of your relationship with somebody, you may have to do more than apologize. You may have to apologize through actions! I find that much more interesting. And, I think we should do it more often. When we mend relationships through self-sacrifice, then those bonds become stronger and even makes the original mistake WORTH the trouble.

Goken wrote: To me apologizing is on a spectrum based on how often a person apologizes.

At one end we have the person who apologizes all the time even for stuff that wasn't their fault or when they weren't wrong. That end of the spectrum is weakness. That person doesn't have the strength to stand by what they say or do. On the other end is the person who never apologizes for anything. This, I believe, is also weakness. This is an inability to recognize that something may be their fault or that they may have been wrong. That is weak. Then there's the middle. A person who apologizes when they were wrong and/or at fault and the apology will aid the situation but see's no need to apologize for things that weren't their fault.

I think the middle shows the most strength as it takes a strong person to admit their faults but it takes an equally strong person to stand up for themselves. So apologizing sometimes but not always is a sign of strength, in my opinion.

What he said.

I think apologies should be given when due, and not given when not due.

ren wrote: I think apologies should be given when due, and not given when not due.

But, then you have the case of:

If I offend you, I should apologize...

If you feel offended, you may feel as I owe you one...

If I feel I offended you, I may offer one...

If an apology is offered, how can it be wrong to accept...

Sorry I offended...
Sorry I thought I might have offended...
Sorry you took it offensively...
Sorry your a trud...
Sorry you have self esteem based off of the value given to you by others...

A simple "Im sorry" doesnt mean that the person apologizing was wrong, it means they value the relationship enough to offer an apology for the misunderstanding, and move on...

Not accepting it is the equivalent of not shaking my hand... It is an offer of peace...

My thinking anyway, but I think there are more than a few rude people here anyway, lol...

Jestor wrote: A simple "Im sorry" doesnt mean that the person apologizing was wrong, it means they value the relationship enough to offer an apology for the misunderstanding, and move on...

I had just begun thinking about times when you didn't feel like an apology was needed but someone else did. This statement covers it pretty well. Thanks.