reading someone's phone

Okay, show of hands. How many of us have surreptitiously looked at a loved ones phone for dirt or incriminating evidence? How many think, no, that's just always wrong? How many are somewhere in between?

I'll start. My phone is an extension of my very soul. It may as well be welded to a hand. So for someone to get in it and read all my stuff is ... Somewhat problematic.

However, I've done it too. I looked at someone's phone while she slept just a couple nights ago. Had to know one way or the other about this other guy, the jealousy was killing me. Knew it was wrong as I was doing it, caught later and apologized profusely.

I think my fiance and I may be a bit weird in that we both look at each other's phones as much as we like pretty much. When our phones run out of battery we just borrow each other's. We both have each other's emails too, and passwords, and we use them pretty much when we want because we're signed up to different things. We have may a couple of accounts each we don't look in but my fiance has been on this forum under my name, with full access to anything he wanted to look at.

I do realise though, that we appear to be in the minority. Some of my friends don't even know how much money their other half (married too!) has in their bank account or how much debt they have...

(Edit:... to those I talk to on here privately... although he has the ability to, my fiance has never (and wouldn't) read my PMs although he could if he wanted.. everything stays confidential.)

I did it once, for the same reason. Years ago. I was wrong... my jealousy was wrong. I haven't since. I picked trust, even if I get stabbed.

I am with Edan in that my husband and I share just about everything....

It would feel like snooping, which for me is incompatible with a loving, respectful relationship.

She's entitled to her privacy, just as I'm entitled to mine.

I have looked through my girlfriend's phone, but never in a jealous way. Moslty just, it's there, it just lit up, I'm a curious person. I usually just alert her to the fact that she has a message from [insert name]. She looks through my phone sometimes too, but that's just if I need her to do something while I'm driving or if she want's to play games. She doesn't have a smartphone yet.

Ive done it only once. When I had an overwhelming suspicion something was up. And it was stupid because I was torturing myself to prove something I already knew.

I don't have anything to hide. My phone doesn't even have a lock and if my fiance wanted to go through it he would be welcome to, although I would worry about what had created the need to do that.

I read someones diary once, OMG never again.... scarred me for life it did :evil:

Yea I always snoop in Ms Adders phone, but she doesnt care :pinch: and I dont have one :S

i have never read anyone's phone I would not want anyone to look through mine so therefore I do not do it to others. Haha

I've gone through my husband's phone before. I was bored and felt like teasing a mutual friend of ours from his number

But to the point, we share everything. He knows all of my passwords, I know his. I'm the only reason his Facebook picture changes haha. I wouldn't have a problem with him going through my phone. I wouldn't have a problem with anyone going through my phone lol. They'll find lots of pictures of crafts in progress or the cat or the dog haha.

Now one time I was in his Facebook page and he got a message from his friend which brought up the history between the two and I got mad over it. I remember being deployed and it was over his job and feeling bad for the accidental snooping later. He was talking about quitting I think and I hadn't heard anything about it yet.