What to ask? What not to ask? Do you care?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/glennon-melton/the-questions-that-will-save-your-relationships_b_4618254.html

I found this article well written and interesting because it brings forward more clearly an awareness of what questions mean by themselves..
The main subject- HOW ARE YOU?
How are you going respond? Most likely- automatically. We are creatures of habit and our usual response to this question iss "alright. fine. good." or some other short reply before asking the same almost-uncaring question. What they answer doesn't really matter because you already know the answer. So I ask- Does an uncaring question demand an equally uncaring answer? In my view- not necessarily although it seems that way most of the time.
Ultimately the article suggests that in the questions we ask- we actually show whether we care about the person. And through our answers as well- we show a desire to connect with that other.
Anyway, Enjoy reading and if you've any more thoughts or questions you think of (from reading it), post them below and enjoy a friendly conversation,

Why do people always put blame on the question? Why not spin it on the answer?

Such bland answers. BLAND!

"Good. Fine. Alright."

Usually when someone asks me that, I like to try and throw some fun in!

"How was your day?"
"Bananas. Just, so many bananas."
"What?"
"You don't want to know..... YOU DON'T WANNA KNOW!!"

A little humor goes a little far sometimes. Though that's how I cope.

Lol. I might use that the next time someone asks, :laugh:
It's a good point that the answers are usually bland. But isn't the question as well? "How are you" seems that way to me-common and bland- usually with no feeling!

Right. So we need to make exciting new questions and answers.
Hmmmmm.

"So, did you enjoy the day under the red hot star sweety?"
"I don't know, darling, did you enjoy the day wearing those socks and sandals?"

*Snap snap*

Vusuki wrote: It's a good point that the answers are usually bland. But isn't the question as well? "How are you" seems that way to me-common and bland- usually with no feeling!

I'm not sure how a simple question asking how someone is could be spiced up, unless you threw a little Samuel L Jackson spin on it.

"A bore is someone, when you ask them how they are feeling, tells you."

Ben Franklin