Just another question about life..

We've all heard something along the lines of, "do what you love- not what gets you the most money."

My question/or just ramblings is this, is there ever really anything that one loves? Or does habit dictate what we "love?" I'm not the best at articulating what I mean so please bear with me.

I've tried to explain to others before that I would rather have more time at home with my fiance than commute to London for work for the extra money.
I know I could earn more but I choose not to because instead of money I get time, and that is important to me.

I don't believe that habit dictates what I personally love. I do the same things almost every day and sometimes I find I become numb to them, almost like the way you don't notice an air freshener when you smell it all the time. Doing something different makes me realise which parts of my life are important to me. If anything, maybe habit reduces the ability for someone to tell what they love.

Doing something you love means doing something that, whether you are successful at it or not, whether you win or lose, you will still do it every day with a smile on your face.

it means that you can continue doing it for most of your life and enjoy it. usually if you do well with your ob the money just comes along for the ride. Why do something you do not enjoy for the money.

I think love is about choice. So, in short, yes, there is something that one loves and it doesn't have to be repetitious.

If your heart is in it, you dig it, you just can't imagine not doing it, then you probably should be doing it. Otherwise, what is this life for if not to enjoy the time you have doing the things you love? There are those things that we don't want to do that we have to, but, life isn't exactly fair. But, I rather it wasn't fair, because if life were fair we would always get what we deserve, especially the bad things. I think I saw a quote about that, one time. :laugh:

Luthien wrote: I think love is about choice. So, in short, yes, there is something that one loves and it doesn't have to be repetitious.

I've said something very similar about love between people. I'm not just with my fiancée because I need her. I'm with her because I choose to spend my life with her because I genuinely want to do so. If we just do something out of necessity I feel it cheapens it a bit. It sounds, on the surface, romantic to say "I need you." In reality, however, I feel its more romantic to say "I want you." Some languages use that phrase as much (if not more than) "I love you" to denote devotion and desire for another. "Te quiero" in Spanish, for example.

is there ever really anything that one loves?

there is necessarily an activity that will fullfill you. It can be anything, walking in the nature, listening to or playing music, caring for animals, or people, building or fixing things, the list is infinite. All those activities are repetitious ones, but there are all of those little moments, those little "here and now" with little pleasures that also make the life, don't miss them, even 10 seconds looking at a bird flying, or smelling a flavor that you like, or just doing nothing, contemplating and enjoying the moment.
Despite this, I don't think being or living with someone you love is such an "activity" even if it fullfills you. It's a relation you have to nourish, and if there are only your job and you couple in your life, you can only nourish your couple with your job... :huh:

does habit dictate what we "love?

Definitly no. I believe in reincarnation (but I won't discuss it now since it's not the point), and I think that in one's life, there is something one is made for and have something to accomplish, or learn with this. if one doesn't, one will have to start again in the next life until one find and accomplish this thing, an then, one can evolve in one's cycle until one can be "wise" enough, and go out of it and return to the Force.

I think love is basically just an expression of unity, or desire for unity. We're all One, but Love allows us to know it.

For me, this is art. I love to draw and it's a gift that I have to feel so deeply about it that just the thought of never being able to do it again in life scares the hell out of me. I have been trying for years, racking up $40k worth of student loans to try to find anything BUT art that I could do to make me happy. But I realized that the only thing I'm truly passionate about is art.

If I could do just that, draw, do graphic design, illustrate, anything creative for a living, I'd never want for anything ever again. It's something my soul told me long ago that I'm just now allowing myself to accept.

Dur Caffrey wrote: My question/or just ramblings is this, is there ever really anything that one loves?

What do your feelings tell you? Get in touch with your feelings and you'll find your answer.