Getting in-between two people? i'm confused

If you aren't still friends with B, then just ignore him. If you're friends with both and B is asking you to choose, my rule of thumb is never pick the one who wants you to choose between them. If B is trying to make A choose, just let A know that you don't think they should have to choose and you'll support whatever decision they end up making. Or maybe you should just remind B that your life doesn't revolve around him and you can make friends and do things without thinking about getting back at him.

This sound like something from a Jerry Seinfeld episode.

Who is your primary relationship? That's your focus. Give everything else time to settle out on it's own. Sometimes when you try too hard to make things better you only mix things up more.

Veltra wrote: Maybe someone on here can help me with my confusion.
I have been told that i got in-between two friends ( one is a mutual friend) and yet i did nothing of the sort. I've been told that i have been using one of my friends to get at the other person yet myself and this friend came to a mutual agreement to not speak of that other person. So, the question is... how am i possibly the reason for the problems they are having? and another question how am i possibly using this person to get at the other?

Sometimes people just want a scapegoat. I would try not to let it bother me too much. My recommendation would be to gently and kindly explain that it was not your intention to do what they are accusing you. Don't apologize as you feel you've done nothing wrong, but be considerate and explain that you didn't realize you were in the middle and did not mean to be in that position at all. My guess is, if they are true friends, this will all blow over soon.

So in the end after today I have learned that B will not be friends with A as long as A is friends with me. After thinking I do not feel bad that I got between A and B. T is not my fault for what has happened even though B may try to make me and A feel like it is. Thank you everyone for eloping me through this... These past few months have been a harsh time for me mostly because I want to make A and B both happy. But now I will only focus on being the best friend I can be for A because if B is going to put me between them then obviously he didn't truly care about the friendship he had with A as much as he tries to make it out to be.again thank you all who have commented by bringing me to this conclusion.

Sounds like your girlfriend stole your boyfriend... and now she's accusing you of trying to steal him back because that's the sort of thing she would do if she were you?

I had a gf who was always jealous and accusing me of cheating. Turns out she was cheating the whole time.

Whyte Horse wrote: Sounds like your girlfriend stole your boyfriend... and now she's accusing you of trying to steal him back because that's the sort of thing she would do if she were you?

I had a gf who was always jealous and accusing me of cheating. Turns out she was cheating the whole time.

I am a female and there was no stealing involved just a disturbed ex boyfriend, a good mutual friend who is not mutual anymore, and assumptions being made about my reasoning for being friends with the mutual friend.

Veltra wrote: So in the end after today I have learned that B will not be friends with A as long as A is friends with me. After thinking I do not feel bad that I got between A and B. T is not my fault for what has happened even though B may try to make me and A feel like it is. Thank you everyone for eloping me through this... These past few months have been a harsh time for me mostly because I want to make A and B both happy. But now I will only focus on being the best friend I can be for A because if B is going to put me between them then obviously he didn't truly care about the friendship he had with A as much as he tries to make it out to be.again thank you all who have commented by bringing me to this conclusion.

Bs the narcissist?

Yeah at lead that is why A and I believe B is

This is why it's almost impossible to remain friends after a break up...women always try to stay friends with guys after a break up, the problem is that most guys (especially young ones) are too full of male pride, jealousy, and stupidity to be able to be friends...they let the little brainless head over ride the one with the brain...it's obvious the one is too immature and therefore it's probably best to cut ties completely , the other friendship is still salvageable provided he's thinking clearly with the right melon....

In the end it's best not to dwell on such things as doing so can lead to doubt and other issues....friendships come and go throughout life, some end suddenly others don't, some end cleanly some don't...how we choose to move on (or dwell on the loss) impacts future relationships...

Interesting that B is claiming you came between he and A, when actually, he is trying to come between A and you.