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How to Find Out If Your Penis Is a Normal Size
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Senan wrote: If we were more comfortable with nudity in general, this might not be as important to men. I look at a whole bunch of Greek and Roman statues and it doesn't seem like those societies were too concerned about it. Otherwise, I'd expect the statue of David to be a more impressive specimen :laugh:
I actually read an article on that recently: Why Aren't Classical Statues Very Well Endowed? Warning: Interesting photo viewpoint of The Statue of David.
The most interesting bit of that article for me was this comment...
ancient Greeks considered circumcision barbaric
(perhaps a topic for another time..)
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Proteus wrote: This post should be called "How to quickly and easily get accumulating pages of responses to your posted thread" ... which sadly, according to what I know will take place here, the topic of penises seems to be more important than deeper, philosophical topics which have been close to ignored. :huh:
the topic is deep enough
Goken wrote: No one here is giggling and making fun (well...at least they're not posting it)
lol
SOMEONE is
People are complicated.
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its better than "double post" any way
http://www.bustle.com/articles/70528-what-makes-someone-good-in-bed-15-bustle-readers-share-their-most-honest-sexual-preferences
Cate, 24
"Someone who isn't too gentle. I can't with this bullshit Hollywood romance 'let me just barely touch you' bullshit. I want handprints, motherf*cker.
Also, not taking the whole thing too seriously. Like, if somebody farts I want to be able to laugh. Sex is really gross and hilarious when you break it down, can't we all just enjoy the gross hilariousness?"
2. Kylie, 26
"Someone who makes getting you off just as much a priority ― if not more [of a priority]― as getting off themselves. Also, someone who is still intimate during sex and caresses/kisses your body and makes you feel incredibly sexy."
Vanesa, 23
"Definitely someone who takes the time to make me feel good. A selfless partner is always a great partner in my eyes. Sure, it is wonderful to feel good and BE pleasured, but someone who loves to make his or her partner feel good always makes sex better."
4. Colleen, 30
"If I had to sum it up in one word it would be 'attentiveness.' Someone who is paying attention to my body, how I'm reacting, what noises I'm making, and whether or not I am engaged in whatever activity we're doing is really the baseline for good sex. Someone who is keeping tabs on my enjoyment and making sure they're not making me uncomfortable by asking if I like something or if I'm doing okay if I make a weird noise. Someone who can see in my face that what they're doing is working ― that makes it or breaks it."
5. Leah, 25
"First of all, that they communicate — and I don't mean dirty talk (though that can also be fun). [I mean] that they tell you when something feels good, or guide you to doing something better. Secondly, that they don't rely on a routine. They switch up foreplay, positions, and vibe every time. Lastly, that they listen to your needs."
6. Ilana, 24
"I'd say being good in bed is about being intuitive; being able to feel what your partner wants while also being able to guide your partner to help give you what you want. It's also about communication; being able to tell your partner what you want or ask them what they want."
7. Tea, 30
"Great sex is SO much about chemistry and compatibility, which can't be summed up in any set of qualities ... [But] I think that great lovers are the ones who don't see orgasms as the entire point of sex ... they enjoy every step of the process."
8. Erin, 20
"I think that having a partner who understands consent and is really in tune with your body is really sexy! Someone who actually knows what they're doing when they give oral sex, asks permission, and really knows how to read how good something feels based off of your body language is hot.
If people make jokes about drunk sex, that's the biggest turnoff for me, because it tells me they're not as feminist as I want someone who I sleep with to be! Respect and enthusiasm are the two things that really matter when I think about how great someone is in bed."
9. Lisa, 32
"The key to being a great lover is to pay attention to your lover, the verbal and nonverbal cues they give, and to focus on giving him or her pleasure. It's all about being connected and behaving generously.
Terrible lovers watch porn, think that's how sex should be, and expect women to enjoy whatever they want to do to them. I call it greedy penis syndrome."
10. Irene, 26
"Being able to take direction and being able to ask for what you want or need. Like 'touch me here NOW!'"
11. Kelly, 36
"I'm not cement, no jack hammering please! It's when he pays attention. Confidence is a big turn on, too."
12. Sonya, 27
"I like dominant feminists: guys who take control in a way that is based in respect and consent, and who make me feel like they are really getting off on the act of giving me pleasure — rather than acting like they're going down on me just 'to be nice.'"
13. Emily, 28
"Someone who’s good in bed is someone who has a firm grasp on the female anatomy. I’m in my late-20s and date men either my age or older [for that reason]. If they don’t know where things are then it’s bad."
14. Jennie, 33
"Good sex means being willing to keep things fresh and surprising. When you’ve been with someone for so long the only way you can do that is by constantly expanding your repertoire and experimenting with new positions and places."
15. Natalie, 27
"It really boils down to the simple ideas of communication and enthusiasm: Show the other person you're having a good time ― don't just lay there like a dead fish ― and share what you like, whether it's dirty talk, a certain position, or whatever else gets you off."
People are complicated.
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It almost doesn't bear saying, but I can only imagine how many fight, or all out wars, have been fought over this fragile masculinity of ours. We can be such paper tigers.
Moving on...
Let us say, for the sake of arguement, that my body conforms exactly to the description in the article. That would make me average; presumably adequate.
And in some many ways, in so many spheres of my life (we're no longer just talking about men or our penises) I cannot bear to be adequate. My ego cannot bear it.
In school, I was told that a C meant my work was average, but that average was halfway to failure. Bad math, there.
Walk up to someone and thell them, "You are unexceptional." Those are damned near fighting words.
I hear things about the Gray Masses, the Herd, The Sheeple, and I have met relatively few people who refuse to describe themselves as exceptional in some way. One is especially smart, athletic, funny, or something.
I wonder what it might take for me to overcome my own fragility that being basically average does not terrify me?
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Br. John wrote: Not sure what made me think of this but as I was reading through this thread I recalled a murder case from many years ago. Martha Dinkey killed her husband with an axe. To say he was a very abusive husband would be an understatement. At her arraignment she plead guilty despite her attorney pleading with her to shut-up and let him try and make a deal.
The judge asked her if she was sure she wanted to do that and advised her to listen to her attorney, but she said she was guilty and would do it again if she could.
The judge accepted her plea and set the case for sentencing. He told her he had a question but she did not have to answer it. He said, "You chopped off his head, you chopped off his arms and you chopped of his legs. How could you Misses Dinkey?"
"haha, dicks, haha, dicks!"
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Cabur Senaar wrote: Let us say, for the sake of arguement, that my body conforms exactly to the description in the article. That would make me average; presumably adequate.
That was my first thought, who wants to be normal anyway!!?
Or rather, why wish to be different.... but asking the question doesn't mean you cannot ask it or indeed wish it, heck or even have surgery to change it apparently. I guess it depends on what the partner prefers the most maybe, I dunno, strange topic Akkarin
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Edan wrote: This is a little off topic but there is a website where women can upload pictures of their breasts... the purpose being to show other women that there is no such thing as 'normal'... every person is different... same goes for men.
I remember that picture.
Dosn't stop people from feeling the way they do though
haha. Me for example....I don't want normal or perfect...I just don't want to feel heavy and broken like I often do. Back aches, shoulder aches, neck aches, sleeping comfort, self esteem (Wearing size large shirts because of my breasts when my waist size is medium
)....it all adds up. It may not be exactly the same physically Breast vs Penis. But the Insecurity is similar
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Cabur Senaar wrote: That would make me average; presumably adequate.
A regular everyday normal guy.
(Some Language)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5PsnxDQvQpw
Edan wrote: This is a little off topic but there is a website where women can upload pictures of their breasts... the purpose being to show other women that there is no such thing as 'normal'... every person is different... same goes for men.
Something in the name of art.
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...i see what you did there.OB1Shinobi wrote: penis issues are a big deal
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Regardless of anatomical size, male behavior in bathrooms and locker rooms can show that there can be uncertainty, anxiety and self consciousness.
Some men will use stalls rather than a urinal, some move right up to the urinal to "block" anyone from viewing (also note they have added privacy walls on urinals to help with this), when I first joined the military and have to take a group shower with 100 men. Having to give a urine sample with someone having to "watch the flow leave the body".
All of these situations can cause serious anxiety issues. None of those situations are even about sexual performance which can cause a whole new level of anxiety and doubt.
Most of the time, we do not want to discuss the topic at all and talking about it can cause even more issues especially if we do not choose our words carefully. The frustration can become overwhelming for both partners and it can seem that you cannot say the right thing to make someone feel better.
Society also seems to put an emphasis on size and with jokes and statements like: "Size does or doesn't matter."
Nakedness as a whole can be very uncomfortable and make us feel vulnerable, especially in a society that pushes a certain look, weight or size.
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Personally it was a adolescent fear that the longer I kept quiet and dormant at that adolescent level it grew into fear, silly fear I now know. I learned a man... a person can add value every place where condition and fear rule... here too! Here especially for the male mind. This too we can change if we so choose, the inferiority complex. It is not hand or part that is human bit the heart. I give very few people the ability to charge their silly beliefs on me... this is one. I hope others men and women can see the profit from taking charge of them selfs and knowing what they believe and feel. Conditions can be broken, even re written...even here! Especially here Maybe the Living Force be with all who have posted and those who will! Thank u Temple!
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theres nothing you can do to change your size, so the awkwardness of locker rooms and barracks and jailhouses is just something youre going to have to deal with if/when you find yourself in any of those places
what you can do is make a genuine effort to find out what it means to be a good man (or just "a good person" if you prefer) and work to become that
you can do your best to understand attraction, and you can learn what makes for great sex, because there are specific things that can improve sexual chemistry and sexual performance
you can be a high quality person, and an attractive person (which are much related) and a very good partner and a very good lover, even if your size alone is not "impressive"
i dont want to say that size is irrelevant, but theres a lot more to a man than just what you can learn from a ruler, and if you have it in those places, youre OK
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Appearing more masculine to prop up ones self confidence by trying to act more masculine, and lets face it how we act is an effort coming from a place of how we feel sometimes more then from a place of deliberate design. I'd say a blend most usually, but that might help define those on the lower half of the confidence scale, perhaps.
Short montage of interesting lecture bits about dominance hierarchy and how strongly it impacts us;
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AMpEyFeLZkU
By Jordan B Peterson, from the longer full video here
But I guess evolution is moving forward out of the old foundations. We just need to be mindful about what 'forward' means....
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from what i understand, there is research to suggest that if the size of anything determines dominance, it is the size of the jaw bone, though facial dominance in humans is more than JUST jaw bone size
i would guess also the hips or rib cage MAYBE but that would be my guess and i dont know that there has ever been research on that
also it is interesting to note that some societies like horses, some orcas, and maybe most revelatory for us, BONOBOS , are matriarchal
in which case, dominance is definitely more complicated than only physical power
but in human groups, i would say that penis size is more of a bragging right than a definite indicator of dominance
there is an elevation of social status for being well endowed, and women certainly do find it attractive, and there is a higher degree of sexual opportunity available - if everything else is relatively equal
but the owner of the restaurant can almost always get more of the waitresses than the dishwasher can
and you can earn a reputation as a good lover even if you arent especially big
and if anything really really serious ever happens, who do people listen to and who do you most want to have around: the guys who actually can handle the situation, whatever it might be
and that probably isnt going to have anything to do with whats in his pants, other than his wallet, cell phone, car keys, or firearm
i have not seen any indication, from research or from anecdotal observation, that penis size actually predicts sufficient resources or competence in any non sexual realm
and I THINK that dominance in non human primates is primarily associated with the qualities of physical power, intelligence, boldness, and social acuity
i dont know what the precise order of that is and i am definitely not an expert, but across the span of primates that i have read about (chimps, gorillas, baboons, vervet monkies and rhesus monkies) those qualities seem to be pretty consistent, and i definitely see this in humans as well, with an addition
we (humans) also determine through vocational status: positions of prestige, authority, and high salary
bill gates > judge > lawyer > police officer > electrician > line cook > cashier at wal-mart > homeless
and this is not just in attracting a mate: those positions have actual (aka to some degree measurable) social power aka dominance, associated with them
so when it comes to social dominance, my guess is that there are bigger considerations than penis size
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Funny thing for me is, I probably wouldn't be aware if you were not normal (as such)
I understand men can be insecure about this, same as women with other areas, but trust me as long as everyone is satisfied with sex and there are positions and other ways to fulfil on both sides, it isn't your penis I am with.
It's the whole person.
This
there is an elevation of social status for being well endowed, and women definitely do find it attractive
may be true in some cases but on the whole, me and my girl friends, talk more about if you make us laugh, are loyal and yes about sex. But not the size or shape of your penis. Men seem to be all about this.
this
and you can earn a reputation as a good lover even if you aren't especially big
yes!!
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Akkarin wrote: The post was not intended to be tacky. There is a strong cultural trend relating the size of one's penis to the extent of one's manhood and by association self-worth. If there is mature and helpful discussion to be had on a topic then we should not shy away from its discussion. Indeed the very taboos surrounding this subject is one of the reasons I chose to post it, taboos which harm self-image are challenged through open, frank and mature conversation.
I look up to you being able to post these kind of subjects, Akkarin.
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elizabeth wrote: I would like to point out as a woman, I fall in love and am attractive to men, never knowing the size of their penis.
yes!!
I think it's more about comparing with each other more than it's about being "enough" for women.
But it's a good point. We don't go around demanding to see the goods before we get to know a guy.
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elizabeth wrote: I would like to point out as a woman, I fall in love and am attractive to men, never knowing the size of their penis.
yes!!
I think it's more about comparing with each other more than it's about being "enough" for women.
But it's a good point. We don't go around demanding to see the goods before we get to know a guy.
Both, is it enough to satisfy (whether its relevant or not to her might be incidental to how the male perceives its importance) and how does it compare to others (who is a potential sexual competitor if I aint satisfying her), and that it can continue on during a relationship.
I remember sitting around getting drunk with some mates on evening when I was in my late teen's and one of them said out of the blue, so what do you guys think of penis envy....... we should not of all laughed as hard as we did, but
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Seemingly equally suspecting that he meant the male version, not the quasi-misogynist Freudian theory. It's just he asked it so sincerely :whistle:
Edit; on reflection, none us probably knew of the Freudian theory...
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