From our birth, we are driven by our world to live in order to conquer things, by these achievements we are admired, praised, cried as heroes or even often ruined, excluded, marginalized. By our achievements we can be heroes and villains. Most of the time everything revolves around said, having things and having status. The world is made up of the winners and it seems that in the eyes of the people nothing else matters but this success that everyone looks for and clings to as if seizing their own lives. When we speak of attachment, we can approach this subject in innumerable ways. The attachment itself is to be emotionally tied to an object or a condition, so we are what we cling to. For example when we talk about ourselves, we say what we work on and our achievements. Still saying about ourselves, we cover topics such as our families, friendships, places we like to attend and etc. This is our safe place, where we have comfort and security, from it we can go to more distant conquests and this happens in an endless movement.
It is then common that by the effort of his conquests we create an attachment a very great need to keep all things that are ours; After all, we build our lives over these things, if these end up somehow being lost, our whole life may collapse. That's the big point, a lot of things are way beyond our control, there is a chain of events that are entirely successive and we can not always see that our choices are guiding us in this or that sense. This is a teaching that is essential to us Jedi, the flow of the universe is constant and uncontrollable, we can only navigate through it, taking advantage of a current, but the collisions of life are unpredictable. A very clear case of what I'm saying happens in the feature film "The Strange Case of Beijamin Button". I would like you to read this little excerpt that I selected before reading.
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Attachment makes us hold firm in what is ours. But in front of life, nothing really belongs to us. Our things, our plans, our work, our children, our feelings. Like a gust of wind and all these things can be taken from us; We are without ground, without direction, we want to live what we can no longer live, because it has been taken. So we have only two choices to make, to mourn what we lose or to move on. Rebuilding, reinventing, moving forward without being trapped by the past that is over and maybe this is the hardest thing. This movement of resumption is only possible when we realize what is happening, understand our choices and take the courage to act. It may seem simple, just pick up and dust off the clothes and start over, but in practice it is much more complex.
For all these reasons, it is much simpler not to nourish attachment. Master Krishnamurti once said this in the book "Freedom from the Know" on this subject. It's the kind of bond that binds us, making our lives revolve around just those. Do not be deceived, everything ends and the end arrives without warning. So when things change it is necessary to keep in mind that it is time to leave, to accept what has happened and to follow our own path, letting life as a river guide us through the currents of our own life. Obvious that love remains and nostalgia bothers us, even so, realizing that there are no alternatives, we have only to follow our own path. Do not think so little that after this decision everything will be easy, it will not be. Feelings will emerge, people will blame you for going forward, there will be fear that everything will happen again. But finally, I discovered with all that I have lived, that life is like this, a constant general madness that forces us to the limit of our abilities, because that is how we become. I have faith that better days come to those who suffer now and so bad days come to those who now smile. Those who know this and learn to deal with it go up and down and can more easily go their own way.
