The Pagan rite of TOTJO and it`s members shows that there is a balance between the two. But that balance is not universal but very individual, depending on what the voice inside you is saying. There is no balance there is no \"balance\" only you. To find your \"balance\" you have to find yourself.
As to Master in Wiccan, excepting solitaries of course, the norm is to train in a Coven. From my experience, within that structure each apprentice or learner is guided more intensely by one of the elder members of the Coven. Then again depending on the Wiccan tradition that may vary. Like Christianity in it`s manifold traditions, so does Wiccan have it`s variety.
Have a look at the Pagan Rite section and approach Masters Anora^una-Ilorn, Tiamat or Caedus.
The author of the TOTJO simple and solemn oath, the liturgy book, holy days, the FAQ and the Canon Law. Ordinant of GM Mark and Master Jestor.