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Why do people hate?
May the Force be with you
The solution, therefore, seems to be education. Help people not only understand what they hate, but they must be able to trust the source of information to assimilate to it.
This all applies not only to hating other people but also toward ourselves, which is probably the most important of all.
In this world I can only speak for myself. I may share a few ideas with others but for the most part - it’s all me. Why I hate?
I was taught to hate. Even better, I was taught to act. As a lifetime of practice became my own hate - there it dwelled and grew on its own easily. I fed it. I lived and welcomed it. During life on the street ,it drove me to survive- during war it preserved me to never quit. Hate can be used like a tool - we can truly wield it or let it go without control as well. That was me. Hate - I get hate a lot. From day one. I’m used to it. I got it too. No one can swear quite like me- I’m sure over a few pints some can challenge me - loser pays the round! Lol Hate for me , came automatic most time, it was like a equal sign at the end of a formula I already knew the answer to. Eventually I made it my own personal mission to get better.
Now, it’s my practice to not hate. Even to the point of re wording words in my own mind when I hear em live in the real world. ( I translate in my mind what I hear- just me-aka I remove hate)
The hate I see is mostly blind. Blind hate. I’m convinced if we just fed each other and met each other in real life - how are we gunna hate each other when we are out just bowling or eating or drinking or living with each other ?
My defense is acceptance over tolerance. Helps with my own personal hate. If I accept people for what they are- I don’t have to tolerate anything.
Hate left inside makes ya moldy !!
ZealotX wrote: I heard fear. Fear is a good one. I'd like to go deeper on fear as causation.
but also, what about pain? Can pain, untreated, twist itself into other negative symptoms like hate?
Pain usually causes you to withdraw, you loose a sense of connection with others and so you cant always empathise. I would say this makes it easier in a sense to hate others.
Emotional pain is usually accompanied by self hate and you can't extend love if you can't feel it for yourself.
I don't find hate is always fear. People use that argument a lot but sometimes hate starts with love.
I tend to think hate comes from disconnection. A feeling we are outsiders from something,.
It is sometimes learned behaviour too, if you grow up only knowing hate then its normal.
Not that any emotion isnt normal. How we deal with it and what our actions are matter. Hates just a normal storm.
I own my life
Of course, I remind myself, even the most emotionally disconnected among us are only acting out of pain, and when I think of this person in that way, I understand completely--given everything they've been through--how they could become this way, and how it isn't my fault for not seeing it in time. And I know, consciously, that the best I can do is move on with my life--and even from the point of view of the illusory "dark side," the best "revenge," if one could call it that, would be precisely that: Moving on, being reborn, and building myself back up where they thought to tear me down.
But that knowledge only carries me so far, until I'm reminded again, by the next song or dream or even acts of kindness from others--ones that they've now conditioned me to suspect as false and manipulative--pulls me out of the world again, and makes me act negatively. I don't want this, and I want to understand it, so that I can be myself again.
Example: A woman breaks a man's heart. The man is hurt. The man may then come to not only feel hate for the woman, but the very idea of being involved in relationships with any other women. His hate manifests from pain and a fear that he will get hurt again if he gets involved with any one else, to influence himself to stay in away from what hurt him.
So there are multiple facets to what creates hate, as I cannot hate a stove for having burned me when I touch it. Psychological / Emotional pain is involved with fear, anger, love, jealousy and all kinds of other emotions depending on the situation, all as a mechanism for survival.