"Damaged Goods "

Being " Damaged Goods" is fine with me and this is why :

"Life’s travails can wear us down. Loss, pain, trauma etch their wounds into our psyches. Our pure souls get entangled and trapped in marble, concrete or even more sullied substances. But their effect goes only as far as our perception and feelings allow them to go. They do not touch the core essence of who you are.

The healthy soul, which is essentially divine, is aligned with its purpose. Like a healthy machine that follows its engineer’s plan. But once inside the body and animal drive, their selfish desires dull his healthier senses, causing the person to deviate and get misaligned from his or her life calling. Conflict has been born – a split between who you truly are and what you do, between your core and your behavior.

You are only as damaged as your perception and feelings convince you to be. Otherwise known as projection. In truth, beneath it all, on the foundation level, where it matters most, you are not damaged at all. Your beautiful soul sits waiting for you to believe in it and set her free.
This is the foundation of all true healing."

So , if anybody tells you you are damaged goods and basicly telling you that you might never be whole again?

They are lying .



Full articlle here : https://www.meaningfullife.com/beshalach-damaged-goods/

While its a positive article

I really dont like that 'damaged goods' crap. Its used to put others down and its bull.
No one is damaged goods and no one should be fine with thinking it. Yes eveyone goes through stuff that can bring them down and hurt them deeply.
But we are all survivors, unique, individual and strong.
The article is to me churchy with the pure soul shit.
Whats inside us is all of our experiences and its not damage its our greatest strengths and changing how we view that changes us.

I ain't broke
I am wise in life

Our appearance may look damaged, our behaviour perhaps as well. But I believe that our true self can not be damaged - it can only be covered up with layer over layer of expectation, outside harm, faulty perception. The outside world only sees this cast. But it's possible to break through all of the plaster and once that has happened, the true self will never be covered again.

elizabeth wrote: While its a positive article

I really dont like that 'damaged goods' crap. Its used to put others down and its bull.
No one is damaged goods and no one should be fine with thinking it. Yes eveyone goes through stuff that can bring them down and hurt them deeply.
But we are all survivors, unique, individual and strong.
The article is to me churchy with the pure soul shit.
Whats inside us is all of our experiences and its not damage its our greatest strengths and changing how we view that changes us.

I ain't broke
I am wise in life

That is a wonderfull way to put it Liz , athough you are right about the churchy and preachy part , i find this article to be uplifting , and one can easily get out of this what you want to get out of it , we are whole and should not let anyone tell us how to feel whole , with your reply , you have succesfully demonstated your wholeness

lol@ demonstated , i merged demonstrated and stated for you

Cyan Sarden wrote: Our appearance may look damaged, our behaviour perhaps as well. But I believe that our true self can not be damaged - it can only be covered up with layer over layer of expectation, outside harm, faulty perception. The outside world only sees this cast. But it's possible to break through all of the plaster and once that has happened, the true self will never be covered again.

Yess but i must stress that the outside world not only sees people as damaged , it treats so called "damaged people " like second hand hand me downs instead of the enriched souls that they really are

MartaLina wrote: Yess but i must stress that the outside world not only sees people as damaged , it treats so called "damaged people " like second hand hand me downs instead of the enriched souls that they really are

The world operates on appearances. Those unwilling to see what's underneath are forever damned to live superficially.

Be careful with qualifiers like "forever," Peter ... They are fine in poetry, but not so much in philosophy. :laugh:

We too had to 'come to see'. And sometimes we've had to struggle a bit with accepting what we 'see'.

The superficiality is there to be seen as well as the depths. It is the meaning that we assign that superficiality that gets us into trouble.

Certainly, experiences over time can cause some damage. Then again, there are very effective ways of damage control (that don't involve drugs or creams ) such as good sleep, getting exercise, eating right, meditation ... basically taking care of the trinity (body, mind, soul) that we are. Let one aspect go to ruin and the damage becomes more and more visible in the superficial parts.

The human aspects of us that love, that feel empathy and compassion, that value service to others -- these do not age, do not wear out, they do not take damage from combat. The spirit of a good ship is not in her hull, not in her propulsion, not in her reactors nor certainly not in her cannons. It is a bit in her life-support...

Alexandre Orion wrote: Be careful with qualifiers like "forever," Peter ... They are fine in poetry, but not so much in philosophy. :laugh:

We too had to 'come to see'. And sometimes we've had to struggle a bit with accepting what we 'see'.

The superficiality is there to be seen as well as the depths. It is the meaning that we assign that superficiality that gets us into trouble.

Agreed - we're certainly not exempt from this. Trying to see (or perceive) what's underneath is an ongoing process. It's much easier to live life without making a constant effort in this respect - and I suppose a lot of people manage to remain quite happy. But I'd argue that they (we) don't only run the risk of harming others through superficial judgment, they also miss out on countless opportunities that really knowing a person can offer in life.

"Forever" would foreclose the possibility for a change in behaviour - shouldn't have used that (it just sounded good

Poetry

When you decided you did not want to see my darkness

, you forever blocked yourself from my light

Not Poetry

You always ask how i am , but you never want to know how i am

words like , never , forever, always , are used to emphasise what we are saying , but i can understand the issue with these words in every day life language , when we say someone will never understand us we actually are blocking them from understanding us , words indeed carry loads , some a bit more than others , when i look at the OP , even telling someone they are damaged is ...damaging , most of the time , if not ...always

Damaged goods is a term, from my point of view, that was coined to mean someone who has experienced a lot of stuff in their life which affects their every interaction and relationship. I hear it a lot from guys who talk about a woman who just came out of a bad relationship, or a woman who has gone through a lot in her life. It's a term that, I think, is demeaning to women and how women are perceived. I think everybody deserves a new chance to change things in their lives.

As far as the sentiment of the article: yes, our experiences shape our perspectives and define things in meaningful ways; especially things with which we have no prior experience. But, we can change our paths, if we truly want that change.

I picture my life as a stone sphere that started out as a clean, smooth object and, over the years, has been weathered and beaten by experience. It's got cracks, eroded spots, dirt, and even some vines growing over it. Is it damaged? Sure. But, it has character. Every imperfection has a story behind it and the fact that there is life growing over it shows that new life can find a place to live with it and make it something beautiful.