Here in Australia we recently had the marriage debate, and many of these questions featured in it.
My take at the time was this, in favour of equality.
Its just skin, skin is skin. It comes in a variety of colours and at least two configurations. and for me its significance ends there.
Its the person inside the skin that counts, and people connect with people, its clear the skin itself is pretty much irrelevant.
And spoilers... when you get old, that biological imperative to do all he fun things you can do with skin fades.
Whats left is the mind to mind connection with those in your life.
I do all the cooking here because i love the creativity of cooking, I remember a funny story.
When i was a young lad growing up in New Zealand in the 70's i loved to help my Nanna cook, she was really good at it and the day of her funeral a terrible fight broke out among her daughters over her hand written cookbook, her collection of recipes.
In school, Boys had woodwork and metal work classes, the Girls, Cooking and sewing.
The trouble i had in doing cooking instead of woodwork was perhaps just a reflection of the conservative times, And i eventually prevailed but only after going over the school masters head to the education dept and even then it was a hard sell.
So the boys all teased me, and said i must be gay....."well i said while you are stuck in the workshop with a bunch of smelly boys, im surrounded by girls, the only boy in the class" "i have them all to myself" when the logic sunk in the teasing stopped.
So i do all the cooking, and sewing. My wife mows the lawn because she likes doing it.
As i said during the marriage equality debate, it makes as little sense to object to two people being married because of the skin configuration, as i does to object because of their skin colour being different. We outgrew our prejudice against mixed race marriage and thankfully outgrew our prejudice against same sex marriage and for the very same reason.
Its just skin, no one asks for the skin they are in, its a lottery. Its the person underneath it thats the important factor.
And people should be free to connect with people. The skin they wear is about as significant as the shoes they wear imo
Standard caveat: these are my ideas on the subject, they are not "the answers" to the question.
But i reckon you could swap the word "size" for "skin" in Yoda's famous quote and it would make the same point
