Can you have a relationship with someone and still be a jedi

Hi Ka Tak here
I was wondering is it against the code to have a relationship with someone just wondering thanks

Each code and maxim - each path- each way is represented by each person and their background here. How they practice - how I practice - how we interpret things is up to us and in what light. Strait up - you choose. No pastors - wise folk or self proclaimed anything can tell you what to choose , it’s kinna your freedom to do so. I’m pastor - I got a wife and two kids. I got chickens and trees - I grow chicken, trees, and family.
The joy of each code we choose to follow or glow - the color of our sabers - how we act and talk is totally up to us. Truly, it’s in the seek we find things - then it’s the seek that helps us make those choices. 7 billion people all making the same few choices. Blows my mind some days.


“Compassion, which I would define as unconditional love, is essential to a Jedi's life. So you might say, that we are encouraged to love." — Anakin
Compassion and love can be separate or together depending on your choice. Lots of emotions can be a mix and a different range of other characters. Seek- keep seeking ! We as humans have the right to find out and a Modern day Jeddist - it is our freedom to seek and find our own path.

As far as I know it is not actively discouraged.

There is a "lesson" in the whole relationship thing as far as following "the path" goes, and whilst they more or less make the point in Star Wars, I think it is more elegantly put in another franchise..

Maester Aemon: "The gods were cruel when they saw fit to test my vow. They waited until I was old. What could I do when the ravens brought the news from the south? The ruin of my house. The death of my family. I was helpless, blind, frail, but when I heard they had killed my brother's son, and his poor son, and the children. Even the little children!"
Jon Snow: "Who are you?"
Maester Aemon: "My father was Maekar, the First of his Name. My brother Aegon reigned after him, when I had refused the throne, and he was followed by his son Aerys, whom they called 'the Mad King'."
Jon Snow: "You're Aemon Targaryen?!'"
Maester Aemon: "I am a maester of the Citadel, bound in service to Castle Black and the Night's Watch. I will not tell you... to stay or go. You must make that choice yourself, and live with it for the rest of your days. As I have."

I personally think the Jedi prohibition in the movies is based on some apparent prohibition in Buddhist monks and Tibetan monks but both are allowed to marry under different circumstances so it was never a blanket prohibition but I think it was simplified more like the Catholic priesthood for the sake of the the movies.

I think in Jediism if you wanted to take some extra vow of chastity or something like that, no one's going to stop you but I don't think anyone would promote that idea either. I personally, don't think it's generally healthy to be honest. It's like fasting. Sure I can go without food, but for how long? Men have a sexual appetite that isn't unhealthy unless its overactive and self-destructive. If someone has that issue than taking a vow might help. If not, you could unintentionally create an issue.

Sometimes, relationships with women though can be incredibly frustrating and invite unnecessary drama, but... that's not every woman. And staying away from women because of what might happen isn't necessarily a good solution.

I never said anything about it being with a women

Ka Tak wrote: I never said anything about it being with a women

Ka Tak, you are going to see a lot of personal answers that are from one persons perspective. My answer would also be a woman but only because its my personal experience. That said man, believe me when I say no one here is going to judge based of sexual orientation. Also, you are not the only LGBTQ Jedi here. On the topic of the OP I would say you absolutely can have a relationship. The thing is looking as to whether it is a healthy or negative one. I think as we work down this path of Jediism looking for more ways to live in the now things like the health of your relationship with a person becomes more apparent and important as it relates to the self. So again it comes down to is the relationship healthy or toxic? Are you receiving/giving Love or is it infatuation/lust?

Much Love, Respect and Peace,
Kobos

Chastity of the body may be miserliness of the spirit. ~ Kahlil Gibran

Ka Tak wrote: I never said anything about it being with a women

Does that make a difference?

Here - A modern day Jeddist believes in a society that does not discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation or circumstances of birth such as gender, ethnicity and national origin.
That’s right rim the front page of our site.

Ka Tak wrote: Hi Ka Tak here
I was wondering is it against the code to have a relationship with someone just wondering thanks

As long as they can (and do) legally consent, go for it.

Dont Jedi avoid relationships because they cause conflicts?

Fyxe wrote: Dont Jedi avoid relationships because they cause conflicts?

In fiction, Jedi avoided romantic relationships because of their tendencies to form attachment. Ironically, this is what lead to their eventual downfall and annihilation.

In practical application within the temple community, many Jedi here are in romantic relationships; with a significant number even being married or otherwise in domestic partnerships.

I'd ask as well, is it worth being a Jedi if such a key part of life is forbidden; or otherwise shunned?

Kohadre wrote:

Fyxe wrote: Dont Jedi avoid relationships because they cause conflicts?

In fiction ...

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I don't think it quite prudent to so emphasise the idea of relationships only being a source of conflict within fictional settings.


Anyone who has sworn to do a duty, is very likely to, at some point or another along the line, find a conflict between their desires, or the needs of their "relationships" vs the demands of their duty.

Most will seek to balance it as best they can, often not without significant cost....

Now whether it affects Jediism as a daily practice, perhaps not so much - but it is hard to have two masters, and many families don't appreciate playing second fiddle to a higher purpose....

Well no, I meant to say like real life though, I thought being a Jedi meant acting like the jedi in the movies?

The question was "don't Jedi avoid relationships because they cause conflicts?"

The answer is, look at the FAQ or Doctrine. This isn't just a bunch of people LARPing as characters from movies.
Saying you should have common sense in choosing your priorities (including relationships) should go without needing to be said

Saying you should have common sense in choosing your priorities (including relationships) should go without needing to be said

Perhaps I'm just stupid, but I've never found the act of sorting out my priorities, and the necessary actions from there to be a simple matter of course as if knowing how to live ones life for the best outcome according to your philosophy was as easy as knowing fire=hot.

Sorry um just learning.
Where should I go?

I'm fair tempted to just quote your signature block at you

in any case, I can see you've started a journal and the IP, which is more or less the "start" of "Jedi Training" at TotJO, so it would seem you are more or less on the "right track" as far as embracing TotJOs teaching package....

Thank you. Rex is just mean.