How to respond if someone tells you they’ve been raped or sexually assaulted

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30 Jul 2015 14:50 #198970 by Akkarin
This offers some good pointers.

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/j...to-respond?CMP=fb_gu

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30 Jul 2015 16:55 - 30 Jul 2015 16:57 #198980 by Edan
I've been in the position where someone confided such a report to me, the most frustrating thing is hearing they feel ashamed and won't report for that reason. All I could do was just be there for them in the silence, sometimes that is all you can do.

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30 Jul 2015 20:16 #198993 by baru
Just listen and be supportive.
Ask the person what might assist them in the moment.
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03 Jun 2017 22:14 #286235 by Blackbeltmitpen
The best thing you can do is to listen with no judgement.

Promote understanding and compassion.
try to offer support in them reporting the crime and getting help.

No judgments.

As an assault survivor myself; the best thing you can do is empathize; be kind;acknowledge the difficulty that person is going through; the strength they have for telling someone- because it does take a lot of strength to be so vulnerable.

Offer help; be compassionate; and no judgments.

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