Big life choices

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15 Jan 2013 19:27 - 15 Jan 2013 19:28 #89537 by Asopo
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I've expressed this before maynorth, but follow your bliss. Whatever makes you the happiest. A life not lived happily is a life that isn't much lived at all. Every step I take is for a future where I can be happy. Some things I've had to put on the side for now (which for you is not the case).

Or as I say lately, close your eyes and listen to your heart. What is your heart crying for most? What does it speak of the most?

Lately I have taken to the process of closing my eyes and listening to my heart. It's a lesson I've picked up recently that has been most helpful. Sometimes logic is most leading, what you think makes sense. Logic and thinking can get in the way, create doubt. So can the heart...but it seems a lesson where you need to listen to your heart.
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15 Jan 2013 19:30 #89539 by maynoth
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Asopo wrote: I've expressed this before maynorth, but follow your bliss. Whatever makes you the happiest. A life not lived happily is a life that isn't much lived at all. Every step I take is for a future where I can be happy. Some things I've had to put on the side for now (which for you is not the case).

Or as I say lately, close your eyes and listen to your heart. What is your heart crying for most? What does it speak of the most?

Lately I have taken to the process of closing my eyes and listening to my heart. It's a lesson I've picked up recently that has been most helpful. Sometimes logic is most leading, what you think makes sense. Logic and thinking can get in the way, create doubt. So can the heart...but it seems a lesson where you need to listen to your heart.


I know what I should do, but living in extreme poverty is going to be brutal, and it also may force members of my family to support themselves which I am unsure if they can.

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15 Jan 2013 19:38 #89542 by Desolous
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Then you do them a disservice. In my own code at least, I would think less of myself, less of a man, if I was unable to care for those I loved, for those who depended on me.

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15 Jan 2013 19:45 #89544 by maynoth
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Desolous wrote: Then you do them a disservice. In my own code at least, I would think less of myself, less of a man, if I was unable to care for those I loved, for those who depended on me.


I love my family, but I am unsure if it is reasonable to force your family to support you. I have never married, nor have I any children, nor do I have any family members under age 21. They are all adults and responsible for their own lives.

I will however feel bad leaving to pursue my own goals and forcing them to be more self sufficient.

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15 Jan 2013 19:53 #89551 by Desolous
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It is unreasonable to force your family to support you, if you are of age.

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15 Jan 2013 19:59 #89553 by maynoth
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Desolous wrote: It is unreasonable to force your family to support you, if you are of age.


I am of age, and I am not asking for my family's support.

The rest of my family is of age as well, I am not obligated to pay their bills.

If I pursue a career I can keep contributing to their lives so they can enjoy a higher quality of life.

If I pursue my real dreams in life, they'll have to support themselves fully.

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15 Jan 2013 20:05 #89554 by Rickie The Grey
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You're making problems for yourself and running in circles with this.

Man up! Be strong, make a decision and live with it.

Good luck. :)

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15 Jan 2013 20:14 #89555 by Desolous
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lsat post in this thread, for the same reasoning as rickie: you are making this harder than it is, and creating dichotomies where none necessarily exist. there are plenty of people, many of them here, who have fulfilling jobs and careers in addition to following their dreams and whatnot.

look at this logically, weigh the pros and cons, and execute. NOTHING will happen until you make a decision and follow through, dreams or not.

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15 Jan 2013 20:34 - 15 Jan 2013 20:36 #89563 by maynoth
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Desolous wrote: lsat post in this thread, for the same reasoning as rickie: you are making this harder than it is, and creating dichotomies where none necessarily exist. there are plenty of people, many of them here, who have fulfilling jobs and careers in addition to following their dreams and whatnot.

look at this logically, weigh the pros and cons, and execute. NOTHING will happen until you make a decision and follow through, dreams or not.


Crunching the numbers, there are not enough hours left in my life right now to even fully complete my dream, this is assuming I sleep 8 hours a night, and can devote the other 16 hours each day to it, and have no work responsibilities, and live to age 90.

Now I can keep doing as I am currently doing, being a weekend warrior and pursuing this as a hobby, I can perhaps even continue to do so while working towards a better paying job, and continue when I have a better paying job.

I am not going to be where I want to be by the time I die however.

I need to pick a path.

It is not a false dichotomy, it's simple math.
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15 Jan 2013 20:41 #89566 by Desolous
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'then set them aside. you must have an air of realism. this is real life, not a dream. once you eliminate the impossible (ie- i want to build a castle all by myself every hour of every day for the rest of my life for some reason) then what is left if the reality of your situation.

again, this beautiful dream of living in genteel poverty accomplishing some romantic task is nice. we all that them. the trouble is, we all also have a real life to come back to.'

okay, NOW last post.

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