'We Have To Stop Calling Each Other Fat'

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08 Nov 2013 13:03 - 08 Nov 2013 13:12 #124237 by Wescli Wardest
I heard an interview with Jennifer Lawrence and I really liked what she had to say. I wanted to find the video for you all, but I have not been able to. But... I have found the transcript...

'We Have To Stop Calling Each Other Fat': Jennifer Lawrence

The 23-year-old has always been refreshingly honest about her views on dieting and her looks based industry, and now she's taken it one step further by insisting that shows like Fashion Police should be reigned in.

During a Q&A session for Yahoo, the actress opinioned: "The world has this idea that if you don't look like an airbrushed perfect model… You have to see past it. You look how you look, you have to be comfortable."
She added: "What are you going to do? Be hungry every single day to make other people happy? That's just dumb.

"There are shows like Fashion Police that are just showing these generations of young people to judge people based on all the wrong values and that it's okay to point at people and call them ugly or fat."


The actress is adamant that being supportive of each other is the way to go instead of critcising: "They call it 'fun' and they say 'welcome to the real world' - and that shouldn't be the real world," she declared. "It's going to continue being the real world if we keep it that way. We have to stop treating each other like that and stop calling each other fat."

"There are unrealistic expectations for women, it's disappointing that the media keeps it alive and fuels that fire. It's something that really bothers me - because I love to eat."

Jennifer recently admitted that early in her career she was told to diet in order to score the big parts, adding to Harpers Bazaar UK that nowadays "if anybody even tries to whisper the word 'diet,' I'm like, 'You can go f*ck yourself.'"


All I can say is thank you. :)

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08 Nov 2013 13:48 #124239 by tzb

Wescli Wardest wrote: "They call it 'fun' and they say 'welcome to the real world' - and that shouldn't be the real world," she declared.

Great sentiment, glad there's someone in the public eye saying these things. Thanks for sharing :)

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08 Nov 2013 16:33 #124247 by RyuJin
She's been saying this for some time now....in another interview she said she couldn't understand why everyone was so crazy for her...in it she referred to herself as a "troll"....she's one of those rare celebrities that is happy/comfortable in her own skin...just check out some of the comments some of her co stars have made.....

I have a rule of "no jennifer's or any variation" due to misfortune dating women with that name...of course for her I could make an exception :evil: , or for jennifer aniston :evil:

As to the word fat....when people hear it they give it a certain power, and if they happen to be overweight they tend to give it more power...it's only a word, and a word has no more power than what one chooses to give it

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08 Nov 2013 16:41 #124249 by Mareeka
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The opposite side of that particular rating game coin is >>>> "skinny". :unsure:

Two men have shared with me that being called skinny is mean. :(

Grateful to have that perspective! :ohmy:

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08 Nov 2013 16:55 #124253 by Gisteron
There is a limit though. I find that in both ends of the spectrum there are areas where it gets a medical condition and while there are places where everyone has the right to torture himself, there are also occasionally a few places that are better than this and actually help people when its required. And criticism where any is urgently due is a part of it IMO.

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08 Nov 2013 20:24 - 08 Nov 2013 20:28 #124274 by Khaos
Agreed. At some point, someone may have to point out what one can so adamantly, and creatively deny.

Fact is, its easier to "stop calling each other fat" or "labeling each other" than encouraging and living healthier lives. The latter requires more work than the other. The former, doesnt require you to here uncomfortable truths about yourself, and having to deal with them.

Certainly, there is the argument that airbrushed models are impossible standards perhaps, but at the same time,she is an airbrushed model.

I would say there is a case of sending mixed messages. What is said, and what is done do not line up, and so what are the ones reading those words really supposed to take from it. By and large, she doesnt have to deal with being called fat or ugly.

I expect people to be honest with me, and for me to be honest with myself. Sure, I could make excuses, "get comfortable" with anything(thats how denial starts/works) however...is that really for the best?

No, you dont have to look like an airbrushed model, but lets not get carried away with going to extremes to make a point.

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08 Nov 2013 20:36 #124278 by Rickie The Grey
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Jennifer Lawrence! They thought she was fat and needed to diet?

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08 Nov 2013 20:39 - 08 Nov 2013 20:40 #124279 by Wescli Wardest
True, it could become easy to be comfortable with something that is not healthy for us.

Mixed signals… there are things we do in our jobs that may not be our favorite but we do them because it is a part of our job. That does not mean we have to like it or support it. I am happy that she is speaking out against “unrealistic expectations.”

I’m not sure as to which part you are referring to as an extreme example though?

Denial is an ugly part of people’s coping mechanism. I am not condoning it or condemning it... I accept that it is a part of many people’s lives.

That reminds me that denial is one of the signs of alcoholism. As wrong as many find it to joke about such things, my friends and I use to. One of my friends not only didn’t drink, but didn’t like it at all. We use to tell him that he had a problem since he didn’t like beer and he would say, “I don’t have a problem, I just don’t like it.” And we would point and accuse him, “Ha!! Denial is a sign of having a problem!!!”

Hahahhahha :P

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08 Nov 2013 20:51 #124280 by Wescli Wardest
PS. She was told to loose weight.

www.policymic.com/articles/66713/some-id...esponse-is-priceless

she admitted that she was ordered to lose weight or risk losing her job if she didn't start starving herself immediately. "Somebody told me I was fat, that I was going to get fired if I didn’t lose a certain amount of weight," Lawrence said, declining to reveal who she was working for at the time. In an effort to really make sure she left this "intervention" with an eating disorder, whoever told her this also made her look at practically nude pictures of herself. "They brought in pictures of me where I was basically naked, and told me to use them as motivation for my diet. It was just that."


I am not a fan of pop culture nor would I have any idea abot any of this if I didn't have a teenage daughter. The truth is, many women see the images displayed bfore them and begin to feel that they have to look like that or they won't be considered pretty. That may not sound like a lot to some, but it can really have a negative affect on others.

My daughter happens to be very pretty and I do not just say that because I am her dad. :P And I find it absurd that women become persuaded into believeing that they have to meet some standard to be considered pretty by others.

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08 Nov 2013 21:36 - 08 Nov 2013 21:37 #124285 by Archon
If anyone is looking for evidence to support how media and advertisement influences the common perception of our youth, perform the following search and see the pictures it brings up:

Healthy Body Image

This is a search that my daughter ran two weeks ago on Google. I was happy to see that she laughed at some of these pictures, knowing she was secure with being herself. Many other young women are not so secure.
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